20-odd years since, when he was the sole earner and we had 2 small children and no family to help, my husband frequently decided that WE couldn't afford to go out. However, HE went out on his own 2 or 3 tmes in the same weekend.
I swore I'd never go out with him again, and have mostly stuck to that, except for special occasions. Now he has taken some early pension payments and he is out every opportunity, having a whale of a time with his drinking mates (some female) and staggering home to turn on TV and sleep in front of it for hours.
The thought of retirement makes me feel sick. What should I do.
2007-02-05 01:29:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
divorce him, get half of the retirement and have your own good time. you know by his actions where his heart is at. he got to have all the fun going out but denied u any pleasure, hit him in the wallet where it hurts, what do u have to look forward to now that he is retired, nothing. seems to me it has always been about his needs and not about u at all, just a selfish man whose wants and needs came and do come first. time to divorce him and take half of what he has.
2007-02-05 02:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible, if you're not working now, to get a part-time job so you can have some of your own money and feel good about it? As well as make your own friends and do stuff with them? Retirement won't be an improvement so you definitely need to find your own things to do to keep occupied. Since it's gone on for 20+ years, he sounds pretty set in his ways - have you ever tried talking to him about it? It'll be pretty hard for him to change his ways but you can certainly do things for yourself and go out on your own. Perhaps when he sees it from the other side - with you going out and having fun - he'll understand better. Best wishes.
2007-02-05 09:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want to go out with him????? You don't have to get drunk . Maybe you and him have drifted apart???? Time for some counseling or a little time in a different enviroment other than home might get that passion back? Does he need Viagra? Do you need Hormone theraphy??? Hope it all works out. You BOTH deserve to be happy as a couple. If NOT then move on .You sound like a homebody???? What did he do to make you NOT want to go out with him??? Sounds like your angry.
2007-02-05 09:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should get rid of is this bum who's been keeping you hostage all these years.
Its all a control issue. Right now he's controlling you - wouldn't you rather be in control of your own destiny?
2007-02-05 09:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you living your life like this???????
Get on with it, get a job, start a hobby, go out yourself, whatever...
Live your life now or be resentful, you don't have to leave him, but start living now :-)
2007-02-05 09:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Roma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I'm not there yet so I don't know.
2007-02-05 09:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋