i have been married for almost 7 years , but he keeps giving me signs of a cheating husband. should i follow?

Answer 1

if it would put your mind at rest then do what you need to do

Answer 2

If he keeps giving you signs that he's cheating then you should follow your instincts. I mean this is a nasty world and if he's out doing the nasty, he'll probably bring home some STD'S. But, to be on the safe side, you should hire an private investigator to do the spying for you. But, don't let your husband suspect that you know or suspect him of cheating. But, while the investigator would be doing the hard part,you could probably check his e-mails, and phone records but, the investigator would also do that. You've been married for 7 years so, you must really love him and I hope that's he's not cheating on you. So, good luck!!

Answer 3

With just your suspicions listed here there is not enough info to say he is definitely cheating, I know you didn't ask that but, not following through could cause WORSE problems. Imagine that you never follow through, how the suspicions could eat away at your trust of him. Now, imagine you follow through and find out he is taking ballroom dancing lessons because you really like to dance and he has two left feet. Just before he springs the big surprise, you flair up and the marriage is over. Over what, dancing lessons??? Yes I am talking make believe. We don't have any facts so anything is possible. Now look at the other side, go dark, very dark. You suspect something but don't want to say anything because you don't want to NOT TRUST HIM. In two years he starts night sweats and losing weight without reason. He goes to the doctor and finds he has AIDS. You have NOT been using protection because he is your husband. Now what???
The myth of the seven year itch is more like a five year itch. It goes back to very early man when a man and woman came together for breeding. He stayed with her until the child was about 5 years old and then went on to greener pastures to increase the gene pool. That is what nature intended when we NEEDED to get population numbers up. I would like to believe that we have evolved beyond this point but the daily newspaper and TV shows prove it isn't so. Men are wired to have multiple partners because a man can cause several pregnancies in one year. A woman can only really have ONE FULL TERM PREGNANCY in one year. The energy expended by men in reproduction is FAR LESS than what a woman expends. That is why most women are not as sexually active as men. Nature wired them to have less sex drive.
Still I would like to believe that we (men) have logically concluded that we don't need multiple partner when one will suffice. Unfortunately this has not worked its way down to the gene level, yet.
Discretely check on him, then calmly discuss the results good or bad with him so you don't have any secrets from him. Ask him for forgiveness if you are wrong but dump him if you are right. If he cheats once, he WILL continue to cheat in the future.

Answer 4

You are the one who knows him more than anyone else. You would know if he is sincere or just playfull. As a man I would tell you this:
In order not to fall into a routine sometimes men do invent stories like that just to see if their partners are still in love with them and they do care if they have an affair or no. In most of the cases, and after 7 years of marriage, love or passion or whatever you want to call it, would fade. This could be his way to test it and to see where you 2 stand from each others. I would suggest to show him some interest and go along. If it is true that he is cheating then there is other ways to deal with it. If not, I think you will have a boost in your relationship.

Answer 5

You should know your hubby well enough by now, why dont you just flat out ask him? I konw most men probably would be extreemly upset or extreemly defencive (if guilty). If he askes you why you think he is cheeting tell him. Just when asking go at it with a direct way, dont beat around the bush so to speek. That will either make him think about it and aproach his life in a different way, or open up a huge conversation about your relationship with each other.

Answer 6

and the signs of a cheating husband would be???? But if you suspect he is cheating...then you must find out, men get really lax especially once they think that they have gotten over on you. since you have Internet you need that software that will send every IM, email that he sends or gets over the computer. cant think of what it is called...but it is suppose to hide itself in the computer so that they cant find it. but it Will send you every email.....I would make a email account just for this info if I were you....there are still many free email sites....hotmail, yahoo, etc.
I hope your suspicions are not correct......Best of luck to you

Answer 7

They call this the seven year itch.I don't really believe in these myths,but I'd just thought to tell you if you hear the phrase.Please don't wreck your brain thinking that your spouse is cheating and please don't believe for a moment that if he cheated it is because he doesn't love you.You did not mention you guy's age,and I believe age is a big factor,but just remember you have to ask him straight up whether he is cheating and if he admits his fault and recognizes it was just a fling then work it out,but if he doesn't fess up and you find out later then divorce him.

Answer 8

Follow what? Are you thinking of cheating too... that is a terrible idea. Dont waste your time, if you really think he is cheating, get some hard evidence, face him up with it and walk. What are the signs that you feel are so abvious?

Answer 9

I think most wives "know" when somethings not right in their marriage. If you think he's "cheating", he may very well be. Can you sit him down and talk to him about it? Will he give you an honest answer?

You need to protect yourself, if he is cheating, he can put your life in danger. Marriage is based on love and respect, if he is showing you neither, I'd say it's time to move on.

Best of luck.

Answer 10

Yes you have a right to know ,do it with care if your wrong ,then you relay have a problem. If he is cheating than he doesn't respect you. Time to leave. See a doctor for tests he may have left you with something???
Hope it works out for the best.

Answer 11

No, you will only get caught.
There are other things you can do.
Look at his cell phone records, home phone records, mileage on his car, call him at work at random times and check out his friends, do they cover for him and if they say they are going out just show up and join them.
Hope this helps and good luck.