my love life?

Question

hey ppl.
i think i love this girl.
she was with me during our college days.
every time i meet her, i feel like heaven.
but then when we leave, i hate it, and keep thining about her.
i really miss her then.

now the poblem starts.
1 - she is not of my caste.
2 - my elder brother also had a love marraige
3 - my parents are expecting from me an arranged marraige.

my parents were hurted a allot, about my brother news. but then they some agreed and allowed the wedding.
i dont think they will be able to digest yet another shocking news.
no my situation is, i cannot even tell my feelings to her.
because if she agrees, the main problem starts.
what should i do.
plz help

i need some genuine answers

Answer 1

Well, before you tellin' your parents about the love u have now, i suggest you to make sure are you really fall in love with her deeply or she's your true soulmate... because you just say "i think i love this girl..." and that sounds you still haven't sure about it yet...

I don't know where you live and what's your culture there. But, if you really love this girl and think that her is your true love. Don't just give up on the situation, explain to your parents... must be so hard at first, must be so much obstacles on the way... Explain to them, that it's no use to spend whole of the time with someone you don't love... (I know, they must be saying that love can grown down by the time you spend with her... but, it's no use... trust me...) Tell them, that 'the girl' (in your arranged marriage) deserve to find a man that truly love her with all his hearts,and that person isn't you....

If your parents can see your seriousness, they must be understand how their son feels... There is no parents in this whole world that wanna see their children sad... You might give them a time since they facin' you bro love marriage...

Gud luck ^_^

Answer 2

I know sometimes people's beliefs are genuine,but the whole Caste system thing is unreasonable.You have to do what your heart tells you to do because in the end it is you who will make a life with this person,and not your parents.There are quite a few examples of arranged marriages that are probably successful,but there are probably more of those types of marriages that are not.Be strong enough mentally to make the choice that will make YOU happy,and not your parents.I don't believe this is disrespectful to your parents,but I do believe it is disrespectful for your parents to insist on choosing a spouse for you.The are no guarentees when it comes to relationships,and it will always be a challenge to please the one you care for.Life is full of variables that will affect your relationship,so why add another one that is unreasonable(i.e.The Caste System).Good luck.

Answer 3

Times have moved on and arranged marriages aren't really the best way for two people to start the rest of their lives together.

It sounds as though your parents are starting to think this way too - allowing your brother to marry the woman of his choice. Perhaps they are more modern than you think and they'll allow you to marry through love rather than their choice. The only way you'll find out is to tell them how you feel about this girl and see how they take it. Good luck..

Answer 4

Love in never easy whatever the circumstances. You will probably have a different set of problems that will suck just as bad with an arranged marriage.

Your family will eventually forgive you for not having arranged marriage, but can you forgive yourself for letting the woman you love get away?

Answer 5

You sounds like you are from a country where arranged marriage is the norm and you can't run away from it. If you really like this girl and vice versa, then go ahead and tell your parents about it. It's your life and not your parents. I know it's hard in your country but it's your decision in the end. Whatever you decide, do NOT REGRET it at all.

Answer 6

I think you should go with what you feel. They have accepted your brother then why can't they accept your decision on who you chose to love. I think you should tell her and if she also feels the same then you should do something about it. I think you should also have a talk with your parents. In some cultures one is arranged there marriage but marriages are so much better when your in love then having to force yourself to love them.

Answer 7

Don't make any moves until you KNOW that you love her. I'm sure your parents, although they expect differently, in the end just want you to be happy. They will be able to deal with it just fine - it isn't the first time. You need to do what is best for YOU. It's your life - don't waste it pleasing other people.

Answer 8

Just go for it. Tell the woman how you feel and deal with your parents afterwards. If they really love you then they will forgive you and be happy that you are with someone you chose and not them.

Answer 9

It's your life so why don't you just live it according to what YOU want? This would not normally have been my answer, but hey, you only got one shot at this life, (unless you believe in reincarnation) so best just do what you think is best, and if it doesn't work out, so what, no one is perfect..

Answer 10

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