KIDS and the TOP JOB.
2007-02-05 00:35:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I really don't think you can; I don't care what anybody says. There are simply, mathematically, not enough hours in the day to be giving your all to both. One or the other will be neglected. And if you're talking about a TOP JOB, my money's on the time and attention going to the career, not raising the kids.
I only know how to make the mix work when we're talking about KIDS and a MEDIOCRE JOB. You don't stay late, you don't come in early, you don't bring work home, you learn the fine art of "NO." You don't volunteer for everything at school, you don't sign the kids up for more than one sport at a time, you learn to love frozen vegetables. Most of all, you hug a lot, play as much as possible, pray for strength every day, and don't forget to BREATHE.
I'll never have that TOP JOB. In my opinion, I've already got it, at home. :) Great question though!
2007-02-06 08:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've asked my mentors this question and they tell me: you just do. Some have their mothers and family pitch in, some split everything - including child care and housework with their spouse, many have their children in day care. I must point out that children that are mainly raised in day care are no worse adjusted than children raised by stay at home moms.
I will probably opt to work 4 out of 5 days and one day from home. My husband will work from home one day a week, and we would put the child in daycare for 2 days. We both have that flexibility because we are attorneys.
All that matters is the fulfillment and happiness of the parents, which in turn will reflect on the fulfillment and happiness of the children. If a mother stays home and is resentful, that is not good for a child. If a woman works and hates that, that is not good either. Hopefully women will not give up on pursuing their professions out of guilt.
2007-02-05 18:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tara P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think some neglect their duties as a mother and caregiver, but i think it would be a hard juggle. Child care can be very expensive and working long hour could alienate the kids.
2007-02-05 09:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by scorpiosa70 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ditch the job and focus on the family. money is not as important as quality time with children. unfortunately feminists put crazy radical ideas in some women's heads that told them they can take a job and raise children. now society has so many fragmented families , children that never see their parents, all for the all mighty dollar. quit the job, focus less on material excesses, and spend more time with your children. they will thank you for it
2007-02-05 10:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by lat0ria 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Never went that route Hon. My kids are the most important thing to me.
2007-02-05 09:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sal D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not something that is thought about, it is just done.
2007-02-07 05:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they get a nanny.
2007-02-05 08:43:05 · answer #7 · answered by whathappenedamber 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋