I am sixteen year old boy, I am attracted to boys. I like boys in my class who are tall and who have broad shoulders. I even peep them in the locker room.
I even like girls, but I like talking to them but I am not attracted to them.
I never used to feel this before, is everything okay with me
2007-02-05 00:30:00 · 18 answers · asked by vivsluv2000 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yep, everything's fine.
It's okay to question yourself, and it's okay to be curious. It's VERY normal, and very frequent, not only for people your age, but for everyone. There is a chance that these developing attractions could mean you're bisexual (you have an emotional/physical attraction to both men and women) or gay (you have an emotional/physical attraction to other men).
You don't have to figure it out right away, so don't pressure yourself to find a label that seems to "fit". Just know that it's normal, and other guys are going through the exact same thing. If you have someone you trust, you could talk to them about what you're feeling. It can be scary sometimes, because these feelings are different - some people are homophobic and won't approve, so these feelings can also be scary. Don't let someone else's judgement make you feel bad about who you are.
Most importantly, listen to yourself and your feelings. Your attraction to guys could be just curiosity, or be an indicator that you're bisexual or gay. All of these situations are normal, so relax :D Just keep being you, and don't be ashamed. You don't need to change who you are, and you're not sick and you don't need help. Again, don't let the judgement of others influence you. Whatever your orientation is (straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, queer, etc) it's fine. You're normal. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
2007-02-05 00:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I can predict how the answers of this question will be categorized (I started typing before there were any): The "You're perfectly fine; there's nothing wrong with you" type, and the "You're only 16, you need to find God" type. Listen to the first kind. Having feelings for others (male or female) is all part of growing up. The next few years are going to be a bit rough, unfortunately, but hey, that's puberty.
Can I call 'em or what?
2007-02-05 00:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 03:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same case here. I have been in your shoes one year ago.
You yourself have answered your question. You're attacted to boys and not to girls. You used these words, didn't you? I would say you're gay!
If you're bothering about liking to talk to girls, don't be. Being gay doesn't mean removing all girls from your life. On the contrary, they make excellent friends and are very understanding. I like talking to girls.
And yes, everything is okay with you.
2007-02-05 02:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ieshwar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is one of several things:
You're an Aesthete - you appreciate beauty (so it doesn't matter that they're male)
You're expressing a subconscious envy - at their height and broad shoulders.
You're going through a phase - (PAH!)
You're Gay or Bi - and that's okay too.
2007-02-05 00:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly iv read all the answers in here and none of them make any sence these ppl in here are making it sound like u have some kinda mentalilness being GAY is not a mental illness its just as anyother sexuality be proud of who u are and who you will be in future even if you go to a threapist about this all they r going to say is its normal ppl are born gay no str8 person wakes up one morning and says i want to be gay i been throught what u been through but trust me everything will be okay dont let other ppls judgements get you be proud of who you are :)
2007-02-05 02:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're just fine, you just happen to be attracted to guys. I'm attracted to them, too. They're cute! Just because I'm a woman doesn't give me any more of a right to be attracted than you. You're exactly the way you're supposed to be, and don't let anybody tell you any different!
2007-02-05 00:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tea 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think the reason you like boys is because you weather be with a man then a women and yes its okay. all im saying is dont people get you mad other this. if this who you and nobody can tell you who to like. BOY or GIRL.
2007-02-05 09:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are gay. Before you come out, make sure that you are ready. Also, it is ok to swing both ways. Many pepole are attracted to both men and women!
OH, and don't let people like SILLY ME depress you. They are narrow minded and scared of what they don't know!
2007-02-05 02:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello my friend,
As a young man, you don't know the spiritual content of this world we live in, and how the mind is attacked by spiritual voices, and how this society wrongly upholds that to be anything you choose is okay, without consequence in the end. You re not really attracted to boys, you are just misguided by many eternal stimuli, and also the misconception of what being a MAN truly is. It is a great thing to be born a man, to be a man is a challenge in itself. Try to self help, and forget that ole saying " you are gay" No one is gay by creation, only by choice. If God created such people this world would be in a worse state than it already is.
2007-02-05 02:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by EyeKneadPoints 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋