Sometimes, we just can't stop thinking about someone who you feel attracted to. Unluckily, that person is unavailable. Rationally, we should move on and let that feeling go.........but, emotionally, we don't want to................we just keep thinking of that person and wishing to have a short term affairs with the individual we obsess. is there anybody got that feeling too? What would u do if something like this happen to u?
2007-02-05 00:12:13 · 23 answers · asked by ristinw 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes....wishing and hoping!!! Does he know how you feel? I guess not.Just be glad you are able to feel what you are feeling..........at least you are human.
Keep the feeling to yourself though.. no one will understand (except me!). You can't really let that feeling go.. at best you can own it and accept it. Don't fight it, don't act on it .. unless you are prepared for the consequences!! Overtime, you would find it easier to bear.Shed a few tears if you must.
My question to you ......... do you enjoy the feelings??Yes? That's why its hard to let go!!
2007-02-05 03:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Montana Skye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I have the same problem, but its bad b/c this married man wants to have an affair w/ me, and I'm attracted to him, but I will not do it, I just have morals. And yes it's very hard to stop thinking about that person when you are so attracted to them. The best thing is to distract yourself. Stay as far away from that person as possible, and see other people to get your mind off of them. Good Luck!!!
Hey sexy...the poor girl didn't say she actually had an affair w/ a married man, so take it easy, you can't help your feelings married or not, she deserves respect for not acting on them.
2007-02-05 00:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jay's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's a load of cr*p about men having morals. Men cheat at a truly alarming rate easily 1/3 more men than women cheat.
You can, and should train yourself to think about someone else, its demeaning to you that you think like a schoolgirl, unless you are, children have crushes, and that's what this is. Find a guy you can go out with and your crush will evaporate, if you try to act on your crush, you will either be embarrassed or be put in the position of finding out your perfect man is at the very least a very imperfect cheater.
2007-02-05 00:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Turn this question around....how would you feel if you were the wife, and some other woman wanted to have little affairs with your husband? It is one of those what you see you should not have, it is just interesting. You need to remember that this person may have not just a wife, but children. Are YOU willing to ruin their family and take their DADDY AWAY FROM THEM? And to you have to remember...should you get this guy to start having an affair with you, yep he may eventually leave his wife and children..but chances are....if he will cheat on his wife with you...then he will cheat on you too. You could also put yourself in danger as well, because if his wife is like me...I would stop at nothing to ruin you life just like you ruined his wife's life, her security. So you may want to watch out..his wife may whooooop your **** if she finds out.
2007-02-05 00:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i was younger and had less wisdom i might have just been selfish enough to go for it, but knowing the damage it causes to the spouse of the married person i would not do that to anyone. as it has nothing to do with anything but lust, and to destroy ones marriage , that is wrong, as i do believe in karma, that what u make happen to someone else will come back on u, and it just isn't worth it. you really won't know how devastating it is for the other person till someone does it to u and u are the one on the receiving end of someone who is obsessed with the man u marry. so it could come back to u in that form one day, chances are 100%really. but guess u will just have to find out for yourself.
2007-02-05 00:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i imagine for you, its about being fascinated in something who commits. that would not scare you, that comforts you. you be conscious those relationships, and also you do envy them. you want that. you want to be in a courting, yet you're too afraid that the coolest ones are already taken so that you be conscious the taken ones, and favor them. If I were you, i ought to evaluate talking to a therapist. even as i change into 16 I went to a therapist because I had this extraordinary infatuation with older adult adult males. I even tried to split a instructor I had and his spouse. Yeah no longer my maximum shining second. the point is, when I went to my therapist, after a year, I had a clearer view of who i change into and why I did what I did. it ought to look unnecessary to you to consult someone about this, yet a minimum of you is merely no longer on my own consisting of your ideas and emotions. you could paintings by them.
2016-11-02 09:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's kinda natural to have feeling like that, but you already know all the rational answers of what the right thing to do is!
the trouble is ur emotions are not rational, at the end of the day, he belongs to someone else, we have a saying, you can look but dont touch, there are plenty of nice, single guys in the world, just keep looking, it's not right to do anything about ur urge, even though it's natural to have them you dont have to act upon them!
*hugs*
2007-02-05 00:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just dont go there!!!!!!!! It will only end up hurting someone , whether or not it is you or the person you are attracted to or their now partner , it doesnt matter .If this person really cares for you . they WILL leave the relationship they are in now for you and wouldnt put you in that awkward position . Stand back , take a deep breath and see what happens , but dont push anything . If it is meant to be , it will happen .
2007-02-05 00:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yeah I have had that feeling before. It's natural to want what we can't have. What you are feeling is just a passing fancy, so let it pass you by. Ignore your feelings and they will go away, dwell on them and they will get more intense. Hope this helps, best wishes Penny xx
2007-02-05 00:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a half-dozen or so married women currently having problems in their marriage. I'm oh so tempted to do them all several times. But, I've never been one to go out and mess around with a married woman.
So i have to concentrate alot on other things cause if i didn't i'm sure i'd be out getting into their panties for sure.
2007-02-05 00:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋