is there anyone out there thats been cheated on by spouse?

Question

i need help ive been cheated on by my wife and i want to here from people from the same to see did you get back together or split up how hard was it cause i know im going through hell
write alittle bit if you have been cheated on

Answer 1

yes i have. my husband cheated on me with one of my close friends. then he left me for her. i felt like it was all my fault . but then realized it wasn't. i moved on and met the man of my dreams. good luck in what you decide to do . and if you need someone to chat with feel free to contact me.

Answer 2

yes my husband cheated, I could not stand it. I felt if he truly loved me he would not have done this. I took the kids and left. He said he loved only me,it was a mistake, he was under the influence of drugs.Begged me to stay. I could not see past the lack of love. Now 10+ years later, I realize I made the mistake. I have grown up and I know now that he was nearing 40 yrs old and feeling unattractive, maybe I should have spent more time on our relationship and understanding, than raiseing the kids,my career,our home. People that have affairs are usually needing something their relationship lacks.If only couples can talk about these feelings in our later years together, the other would be able to help.We can't read minds. When we need our ego stroked or more excitement in our relationship, sometimes it is easier to look elsewhere instead of taking the chance of talking to the other and maybe upsetting or hurting them. Trust is a hard thing to regain, but it can be done.If you both love each other and want this to work, she will need to know she has to work hard to regain your trust in her love for you. ANd you have to love her enough that you can truly put this behind you for what it is and make a fresh start. I think if this is your route,then you must talk and ask all the questions you have about it. Why did she do it? What can you 2 do to your relationship to mend this? Get these questions out so you can let go and move forward. If only I had known this, and could have had some time to get past the hurt, I might have been happier the last 10 years and my kids would not have had such a hard life being raised by a single mother.Think things thru and really talk, from your hearts.

Answer 3

I am so sorry to hear that and honestly my spouse have not cheat on me. And well, in the future only God knows. But of course who would ever want that to happen.

Though I have not been in this situation but I am surrounded and let me tell you out of 3 of my freinds 1 of them cheat on their other half. It is becoming such a norm in nowadays society that I starting to wonder are we losing our moralities? And I always ask the person who cheat why? And of course the reason will always be the same, their other half is boring, sex is boring, losing passion, losing this and that blah blah blah. Then where's the love gone? The vows, oaths and values? Gosh ...

I always do ask myself too what if this happen to me? I would tell and had already told in fact mistakes do happen ... Is it a fling? Or has he fall in love with the whoever ... If my spouse says it's a one time thing I would forgive him. If he falls in love then go after the love that he now believes. Matters of the heart no one can stop. Why asking the another half to stay with us when the heart belongs to someone else ??? FOr children's sake .. One of the most popular reason ... I don believe that ... I believe it's best to nurture children in an honest and truthful environment rather then parents withhelding something back if you can get what I mean ....

But either way, before he stays or goes I make sure he'll learn a lesson or two before cheating again ... ; P

Answer 4

Being cheated on is the worst pain there is. Everyone is different some can forgive and forget and others can not get past the deception. One thing to think about the cheater cheated for a reason, maybe thinking about why and taking some of the blame you may be able to repair the relationship.

Answer 5

My x husband cheated on me.. and by the "x" u know how it ended up.. it was soul shattering.. which to me is beyond heartbreaking.. it took 9 years to get over it and i suffered from affects of it.. i couldnt fully trust another person, couldnt fully open my heart fully to another person, for fear of getting that crushed again.. always looking for that "security net" just incase cause i dont want to be caught off guard again.. , it does get easier though, with each passing day u learn to cope with it, i finally had a turning point when i realized i didnt love the person my x husband became, i loved the person i married, and that person no longer exsisted.. the person i married would of never hurt me or our children this way.. so although i loved him i had to realize it was more like mourning over a dead husband, because the person i loved no longer walks the earth.. and it helped me with copeing ..
One thing i like is that i can always hold my head up, i did nothing to cause this to happen, and when it did, i handled it maturely and never bashed him to my children, i even was polite to the girl when he brought her into "our" house.. which took incredible strength.. and from the moment he said it was over, i never let him see me cry again.. although i did cry many of times, i never let him see it..
The sooner u realize she's not the same person u married, that she's the one that broke her promises to u in the vows, and that she's the one that has to live with the consequences of her actions, the easier it will be for u to move on..

Good luck, and i hope u find peace alot faster then i did, because from expirence it can eat u up inside, and u wake up one day realizing u wasted alot of ur life.. loving someone that doesnt love you back..

Answer 6

My first husband did, that's why he was the first and not the last.
I stayed married for years after that, but he cheated again and I found out I didn't care, for me, once the vow had been broken, it couldn't get glued back together. We divorced and I remarried. Happily and faithfully for 28 years now. So there is life after divorce and even if you never trust the cheater, it doesn't mean you will never trust again.

Answer 7

I was cheated on, and tried to forgive. It was iimpossible. The trust was gone, and I had a very hard time coping with the possibility of "what if" everytime he left the house. It eventually disintegrated, as some things are impossible to repair.

Answer 8

yes i was cheated on, wanted to reconcile even though i knew about her, but he decided to blame me as we spoke about reconciliation, making me the reason, by attacking my person, everything about me, so he could avoid any responsibility at all. after that there could be no reconciliation, he re wrote the whole marriage, stating it was all bad, when it really wasn't. just how he felt at the time after meeting her. as our belief system changes according to what we are involved in. anyway i had to divorce him, feeling terribly humiliated at the time. yes u will go through hell for awhile, sometimes there is no answer to it, sometimes the spouse is remorseful, and wants to come back, if this is the case and she hasn't done this before than everyone should get another chance. depends on her response to it and your ability to forgive her.

Answer 9

My wife has cheated on me several times and we are still together. The biggest question you need to ask yourself is do you still love her enough to make it work. For me and my wife sex is just sex and we can be with other people if we want there are rules but it's mutually agreed. If you love her and you know she loves you then make it work just be honest about it and don't hide your feelings from her.

Answer 10

Yes i have been and filed for divorce the day after i found out . Also went to the dr to find out if the butthead gave me anything else you know . Move on and forget about them . they are the scum of the earth . god is in the forgiving business not me . This girl dont give second chances . You screw up with me and you are out of my life period.good luck.