I left my sons father when he was a baby,8 years ago. I have recently married and want to change my sons name legally to my husbands,i havn't seen my ex for years,but his mum lives round the corner so i could get a message to him if i needed to. Do i need his permission to change my sons name. We signed a parental responsibility thing years ago,not that it meant anything but i'm lead to believe it does have some legal standing. Any sensible advice.
2007-02-04 22:58:26 · 20 answers · asked by heebygeeby 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How would you feel growing up in a family where everyone's name is different to yours?
2007-02-04 23:05:11 · update #1
I didn't ask for your moral judgement my son has had my maiden name from birth and he quite happily uses my married name anyway at school and everyday life,he loves it,it was his choice.
2007-02-05 03:19:17 · update #2
And as for you piepiepie i've never been divorced and don't plan to marry every 5 years,nor am i ashamed of myself.
2007-02-05 03:20:39 · update #3
If you want to change your child's name legally to a new name, you must have the permission in writing from the father, and most likely adoption papers for the new husband to be able to take over as the new father...
2007-02-04 23:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by aspenkdp2003 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I did grow up in a family where everyones name was different than mine. I'm normal. My mother remarried a man with 2 kids. I was the only one in the house with a different last name. I honestly didn't care. I would have been upset if you changed my name. I didn't have a relationship with my dad until I was 10, but I never wanted my name changed. Start by asking your son what he wants and go from there.
You would need his permission to change his name legally. But I don't know why he wouldn't give it if he has nothing to do with his son. Why not ask for a formal adoption by your current husband so that your son not only shares his name, but it would make them legally father and son too? (again, I would ask your son what he wants to do first)
2007-02-05 00:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-24 17:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Under UK law, there is no legal process that you have to follow to change your name. You don't even need legal proof to do so.
Once a name is changed, it can be used officially, as long as you are not obviously trying to defraud or deceive people.
However some official bodies will ask for a letter to confirm your name change: from your doctor; a newspaper notice "Jim Jones is now to be known as Larry Kim"; or by deed poll (a formal letter signed by you.
I'm afraid it is slightly trickier for people under 16 (I assume your children are under this age), but you should contact your local Citizens' Advice Bureau for more free information. You can also ask them about the parental agreement. They are experts in legal matters.
Good luck.
2007-02-04 23:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by Neil_R 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you do need his consent, or if this is not given you would need the authority of a family court. If you do it without consent, you might have trouble when applying to change or get passports. He could apply to the courts himself to request the name be changed back. The parental responsibility agreement is why this is the case
2007-02-08 01:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll need to petition the courts for the name change. Yes, your X will have to sign off that he agrees to this. I don't think I would change the names of your children. Just because you've married again and are happy ---these children have lived their lives with the name they were given. Just because you want to change their name doesn't change the fact they are who they are. Changing their name only disguises the fact that you are unhappy with their father. Think long and hard and try not to make a change like this. When your children are old enough to decide for themselves then and only then should this name change come about.
2007-02-04 23:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Legally you are supposed to have the fathers permission.......
BUT
i changed my sons surname when he was 10 yrs old. when me & my hubby got married my eldest son asked us if he could, he wanted the same name as us and his little brother
At the time he hadnt seen his father for over 2 years, (pillock just disappeared) but we kept in touch with his sister
when we went to the solicitors I told them we hadnt seen him for over 2 years AND HAVE NO IDEA WHERE HE LIVES
So his surname was changed legally with no problems.
GOOD LUCK
2007-02-06 08:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by talula 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you do need his permission i done my sons name when he was three his father didnt have pr then but when he took me to court for it demanding things he then tried to get it changed back but didnt work ha ha my son still has my name but stays his on the birth certificate but if he doesnt let you your son can be called your partners name if he wants to he just has to let people know though but im not sure about school and doctors though i dont know if you gotta have the legal form
2007-02-04 23:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by missaskalot 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should keep your son's name as it is, until he is old enough to WANT to change it! I kept my married name because if i changed it , it would be different to my kids names and i dint want them to be DIFFERENT from their friends(even tho i would've much preferred to go back to maiden name)
2007-02-08 10:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by bevalou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you can do this unless the real father sighns over all legal rights to the child and he okays you doing this... Your husband may also have to adopt him to make this happen... Contact a family court attorney and ask them. They should be able to answer your question and may be able to help you with this.
2007-02-04 23:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋