question please folks, if you were struggling living pay check to pay check. and a ex came back wanting you....and you knew your kid could now have what other kids have like shampoo, extra tissue in the closet, more than two pairs of pants. live in a pretty home, would you seeks a professional to help you two together with the terms. even if you only loved the person rather than was in love? would your kids needs out weigh the lack of love. the ex had a mid life crisis that ended us 2 years ago. i'm part of the working class poor, will the out come of my child be the same with or with out shampoo and extras of life? have any of you jointed in a relationship for only money?
2007-02-04 22:51:51 · 9 answers · asked by Shari 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It wont work if it is only for money, if you are not happy your child will know this and they will not be happy. Is that what you want for your child to live in a loveless home where in the end no one is happy. Maybe it's time time to look for a better job, or maybe some study to better your chances of a better job. Remeber tho money is NOT everything. It's love that makes the world go round...
2007-02-04 23:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by cailieco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh....Thats difficult. Love or your kid having nicer stuff. Head or Heart.You have to weigh up what is good for you too. So your ex wants you back.... are you sure you dont love him. Maybe youre still angry with the mid life crisis event and dont want to get hurt again so making it all about the money allows you to detach yourself?? I am a Heart person but thats easy to be when there is money coming in. You know your own strenghths and weaknesses.... could you deal with being with your ex and not loving him the way you want to love him? That is hard work for a romantic, but i know people that perfer to be with someone who loves them more than they love the partner. Its all about what floats your boat. Maybe you cant afford to be romantic right now and need to be practical... Good luck sweet... thats a tough one.
2007-02-04 23:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by madgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shari,
Go get an education and pull yourself up. There is lots of free money for college. Figure out how to do it. What you think you can tolerate now is something you may not be able to do in the future.
2007-02-04 23:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back. You are an independant women, now and he seems a blood sucker.
Don't complicate your life anymore. You can find love somewhere else. "Love" alone would not put brade on your table and would not allow your children to get what they need. Its not love its infatuation and exploitation!
Any way, in the final analyses it is YOU who would decide.
Remember though: One bird in hand worths ten on a tree!
All the best!
2007-02-04 23:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell the ex to move on and never come back. I may live paycheck to paycheck but my kids know what love is and that's something money can't buy.
2007-02-04 23:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have, its not good because the person knows why youre with him and will ALWAYS remind you of that, and if you guys have an argument or disagree on anything he will use the money against you.
2007-02-04 23:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by deus82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do what is best for you AND the kid i think that nobody here will beable to help you make that decision
2007-02-04 23:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by m1carbine2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will jump out later and it will disastrous. Be careful
2007-02-04 23:01:08 · answer #8 · answered by good-for-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take his money and then kick him in the groin
2007-02-04 23:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋