do you think that lesbian and gay couples are righ to adopt ?

Question

i am not doubting their abilities to care for children because there are good and bad people across the spectrum of genders ithink how ever it must have an effect on the most important people in this ie the kids they will have all the pressure from their peers and have to live with the stigma of having same sex parents

Answer 1

I am not going to be politically correct here.

Traditional family structure is needed for the proper development of a child's mind. Their success in their future Depends on this.

I don't hate anyone. If someone wants to have a homosexual relationship then that is their right. But children need proper family structure.

Sorry if that isn't what you wanted to hear.

Answer 2

Well I certainly can see were you are coming from and your argument, it is a hard one, but can you blame women for wanting to be lesbians when there is a shortage of nice attractive, decent men? and perhaps the only chance they will have of a good relationship is with a woman. There are so many people out there that have children and they shouldn't, because they are too young, or they are abusive to the child. So many children are accidents so they are not always wanted, but if these lesbians can provide a good home why not? you are right that there could well be a stigma attached to them adopting, as they may get horrible comments made at them, but people are very judgemental and they only think what is natural is good, for an example a lady has a child at 66 and there was a great fuss made about it, and yet there is so many dirty old men having children in their sixties and even seventies, but because it is natural people are less judgmentally, but it doesn't make it right, I personally don't like men who marry younger women and have babies with them, because I feel that the age of a man is just a important as the age of the woman, children need father as much as they need mothers.
In the future they say that two women will be able to make a baby without a man, so soon it could be treated as the norm for lesbians having a child, all they say you need is an egg from one woman and some DNA from another women.

Answer 3

yes I think that gay couples should have the right to adopt. So many children are growing up in single parent homes many are in substandard living conditions, so many single parents have not one but many children that they cannot afford to properly care for. Why not allow gay and lesbian couples adopt at least then these children would get a fair shot at making something for themselves. Children need a loving caring family - it does not matter if they have 2 moms or 2 dads or a mom and a dad as long as that family is financially stable and capable of raising children.

Answer 4

i think you are right in your point that the most important people in this debate are the children, However i believe that every child has the right to live in a loving home where they can be nurtured and cared for this surely has to be better than living life in an orphanage. This entire debate seems to be based on the fact that a gay couple is not a nulear family with a father and a mother, the fact is that we are living in the 21st century and these dogmatic and old fashioned ideas are not acceptable, there are dozens of familes that are not traditional. your main point seems to be that the kids will feel pressure from their peers and may feel embarresed by they adoptive parents, i would ask if you have actually been through childhood because i don't know a single person that didn't feel pressure when growing up, that didn't feel different and didn't feel embarresed by their parents.
that is the way life goes and the child will grow up stronger and a more rounded individual because of it.

Answer 5

A persons sexual preference has nothing to do with their ability as a human being to be a decent parent. Kids grow up with parents who sexually abuse them, are drug addicts, mentally unstable, and alcoholics -- and have to deal with the stigma and scars from that so we all have our crosses to bear in Life.

Most the children that gays/lesbians are (allowed) to adopt are kids from foster care who heterosexuals don't want to adopt anyway (HIV/AIDS, physical/mental issues) -- so are they taking anything away from society -- no they are giving a child a chance. I personnally would prefer having one gay parent then two who didn't give a shyt about me.

It's time for America to get over this stigma and stop hurting the children, because utimately this is what's happening -- kids stuck in foster care system for years until they get so old that no one wants to adopt them.

Answer 6

I know many heterosexual couples that should not have had children. The fact that Gay/Lesbian couples, or any heterosexual couple wants to adopt shows the decision was thought out. There are bad parents everywhere; of every race, creed and religion. But love and eduction are present in adopting parents, that is a good sign; no matter who the parents may be.

Answer 7

That stigma is FAST disappearing! It's only bigots like you that keep the so-called stigma alive!
The "family" concept has changed so much in the last decade, that nobody can define what's "healthy" anymore! Is it better for a kid to be raised by a single parent? Is it better for a kid to have two step-parents - and therefore FOUR parents - in it's life? Or is it better for a kid to have a loving home - no matter what the parent's sexual orientation?

Answer 8

I think if they love each other enough and want to adopt they should be able too. What's saying a male/female are any better than a gay couple at loving a child.

I think it's cruel and horrible gay partners can't adopt or do a lot of other things for that matter. We are in 2007 and people have to face the facts that gays are people and have feelings too.

Answer 9

of course they should be able to adopt if they can care for children properly then they should have the choice like any other couple just because they chose to be in a same sex relationship dont make them any less capable of being able to make a happy family these days kids have alot to cope with any way as long as they are told about their situation like any adopted kid should be i dont see what the problem is everyone deserves to have a loving family

Answer 10

Not any more effect on a childs life then a parent that is a drunk or divorced parents or parents that are straight.

Being gay or a lesbian is not a stigma. It is what is is, a part of what someone is. Like some one that is straight.

Answer 11

I suppose if they pass all the criteria and are prepared to put up with the checks from social services I don't see why not. So many heterosexual couples make such a pigs ear of it these days, surely a stable gay family is better for children than an unstable hetero one