my boyfriend and i have been 2gether for a year now. im 20 and hes 21. he has a steady job, and i do sum part time work. we live with my dad in a real tiny apartment. anywayyyy, we wanna have a baby, but im kinda scared. scared of what my dad will say becuz im his lil girl and i didnt go to college yet. i know me and my bf are gunna be 2gether f0rever .. hopefully anyway. my dad is old, kinda sick, and im scared he wont be around to see my kids. i know im responsible enough to have a baby .. just too scared of what my dad will think. i know he wont hate me, i know hell be hurt. but i dunno. what should i do0o0o0o?
2007-02-04 22:27:00 · 7 answers · asked by ker_luvz_j0e_xo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You arent ready for a baby. You still live at home in a tiny apartment. You dont have an education, and being together with someone for only a year really isnt long enough to really know someone. How do you know once you get pregnant he wont leave? How are you going to pay for diapers and formula and things? Dont have a baby. If your on yahoo answers looking for input from complete strangers than you arent ready. I hope you seriously think this through, good luck!
2007-02-04 22:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you get married first, that way dad will be very proud. Besides If you get married you will have to pay less taxes, they tax a single person way more the a married couple.
If you are living in a tiny appartment , thats not big enough to raise a baby. I would sugest you get a full time job, B/f continue working full time.
Get a larger place , one that you can move your father in with you and your baby still have its own room. He will need care if he is ill, and will need you with him. He raised you now its your turn.
Odds are if you havent went to college yet , your not going to unless its a 2 yr college. And you can do that part time and still work. If you have a baby now, you will have to get on welfare, and as history has shown more then 70% odds you will remian on assistance. Might be ok, until they do the welfare reform and your child suffers because you cant afford anything
Im divorced, Im a nurse, I work full time have great benifts, And i just do ok, I wouldnt say im rolling in it. lol You would be working for min. wage.
You have to think about healthcare, for yourself, husband, child and your father.
You have to think about how much you spend in groceries, and how much more you will have to spend especially since your rent would be going up. Id suggest getting a loan and buying a home, payments are usually cheaper.
transpertation, and all the things the baby needs, Crib , car seat, swing, changing table, dressers, soaps, creams, lotions, diapers, bottles, bibs, stroller, playpin, blankets, formula, clothes, shoes, socks, diaper bag, wipes, bouncer, the list goes on. Go make a list and price these things... SO NOT CHEAP
I know you want a baby, but make sure your ready for what comes with it, Good luck !!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-04 22:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good to have a baby but you need to have lots of consideration like the questions you are posting. From this considerations, you have bias thoughts. First, you are 20 and your bf is 21, having a steady job and partime job for yourself. according to your age, you aren't young to be a mom, {according to this, YES to have a baby.} Second, you live with your dad in a real tiny apartment. {NO, to have a baby with this situation.} Third,You are scared of what your daddy will say because you are his little girl {you should ask your daddy before you are pregnant and tell him that you are considering to have a baby and ask him opinion for your thoughts.} Fourth,You haven't attended the college yet, In this case, {if you are planning to go to college, do not have the baby yet. so, the answer is No}. Fifth, your dad is old and kind of sick ( No, you should not have a baby yet, instead, you should take care of him first.) sixth, you know you are responsible enough to have a baby (No, i think although you are responsible enough to have a baby, your situation currently isn't).Seventh you are too cased of what your dad will think (then you should ask his opinion on your plan and get his advice before you are pregnant). Eighth, You know he won't hate you but he will be hurt (sure he won't hate you but get his action and emotion first before you start your plan, and it may or may not hurt him if you do it).
From these 8 facts, 1 yes, 4 No(s) and 3 (get your father's opinion, action and emotion on your plan).
This is my suggestion on your case but whether to have the baby or not is you(mainly), your bf and your daddy's decision.
2007-02-04 23:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i belive you asked this question beofore and ill tell you the same thing you shouldnt base your desions on whats going on in some one elses life if your not ready YOUR NOT READY bringing a child into this world into an enviroment that isnt good for it is totally wrong rethink your reasons for haveing a baby if youwant ot have a baby to bring forth a life between you and your b/f then go for it but if you want a baby so your dad can see it dont do it as for age i too am 20 and have a set of twins my hubby is 21 and also has a steady job and i was pregnant while we were staying with his parents so i dont think age is a factor here i think its personal readyness and the reasons for haveing a baby i hope ive helped
2007-02-04 22:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by mommyofanangel06 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO! You live in a tiny apartment,you don't even live on your own,that is NOT the place for a child to be raised,also you say your dad is sick,...you cannot be pregnant,and take care of yourself to,along with a sick father....you should really wait!
I really think you need to reevaluate your goals,and go to college first,you cannot support a child on barely over minimum wage
2007-02-04 22:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by Two Peas 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That is something that you need to work out on your own. There really is not alot that we can do for you. I guess the best thing that you can do is talk to your dad before you do it..If you are that worried about it then I suggest that you talk to your dad and tell him what you want to do but also how you feel that is what I recommend that you do. and the Best of luck to you in the future.
2007-02-05 00:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him with your boyfriend to and sort things out good luck
2007-02-04 22:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by m1carbine2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋