2007-02-04 22:07:36 · 12 answers · asked by miriri_00 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hi Miranda, If you two have a serious relationship/or want it to be, you should discuss it with him. I don't know how long you have been with him. But either way, any SOLID relationship is based on HONESTY & TRUST. If he judges you, then he's not an open minded person, and you are better off without him. A true partner MUST accept the other for who they are, and NOT control them. If this doesn't not happen, your spirit is broken and you loose sight of WHO YOU ARE! I've been there, done that, got the t-shirt and the divorce papers. Depending on what "YOUR PAST" is, he may be turned on by it! But regardless, if you feel your past could be a problem for him to accept, then you are only being fair to yourself and him by telling him now. The longer you wait the harder it will be to tell him, and he may wonder what else you haven't told him. As the saying goes "the truth will set you free". Being upfront with him will also increase his trust in you. Dirty/or not "little secrets", SOME must be discussed with your partner. If you feel it WILL cause problems if found out years down the road, then you absolutely need to tell him. It's a whole lot less stressful when you aren't constantly looking over your shoulder.....Meaning, having to be careful that you or someone else doesn't slip, and he finds out about your past that way! He will respect/trust you more if you're honest with him now. Like I said, if he judges you because of it...he's not the boyfriend you deserve! If he accepts you for who you are, then there's the proof that he truly loves you. Best of Luck Miranda!
2007-02-04 23:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worse thing to do is start a relationship not being honest. I mean some thing are left alone when it deals with a person past. What's in the past stays in the past. But......if it's something that will come back to hunt you and you .......and it's something that needs to be told to the person you with then you don't need to keep that from him if you really care for this guy. Be honest and real you wouldn't want him to hide anything from you that will later hurt your relationship do you?
2007-02-08 16:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by pinkish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you just dating right now or is this a serious relationship with talk of the future, etc? Be sure of where it's headed before you tell him anything you might regret. Then, if you still want to confess something to him, just tell him outright. But remember that some things don't always need to be told. It's okay to have a few little secrets as long as no one is hurt by keeping them.
2007-02-04 22:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your past that brought you here and made you the person you are today - the person he fancies.
Whatever is in your past, express it in those terms to him. It may be a bitter pill for him to swallow (and it may sound the death knell in your relationship together) but you're honesty in this relationship is the only thing that will keep your guilt/anxiety from spoiling it.
2007-02-04 23:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth will set you free darling
2007-02-04 22:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by ashleynicole452 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him, if he loves you he wouldn't care if you were once a thief, was a hooker, or even was a man, if he loves you he won't leave. Just take him to couples counseling after you tell him.
2007-02-04 22:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it in the past move on
2007-02-04 22:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Angela S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your past first?
2007-02-04 22:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by Forward 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
here's a clue...tell him. a relationship is based on trust and communication.
2007-02-04 22:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so waht is so bad about your past?
2007-02-05 04:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋