i m of 18 yr girl studiying engineering. today i have got a phone call from my seventh class mate. he said that he wants to marry me. he is now in a good position. but i dont feel that i am loving him. i liked him only as my friend. should i accept him or not...... plase give meaningful answers.
2007-02-04 21:54:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no, sounds like you dont love him. You will only fall in love with someone else and break his heart. Its better in the long run that you let him down gently otherwise you could really break his heart
2007-02-04 21:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey young lady you havent enjoyed your life yet, there is plenty of time for u to marry . I have a 25 yo married daughter with 2 kids, 1at 14mths the other 8 wks, a nice hubby, car ,house and all the trimings, but she also has many G/friends same age ex school mates,who are " NOT" married. When they all go out to party etc and my daughter cant, cos of her family etc, I see a look of 'envy' in her eyes. Dont get me wrong, she loves her family, but at 25 she is young and tied down, where she could be gaining life experiences socially and by traveling etc. I hope you understand me here, never has a roof for a house been built before the foundations are completed!! . Look at your life like, building a house, Foundations (Study) The frame (social ,travel etc) The roof ( marriage & family) . Just remember houses are built to a PLAN and so should your Life.
2007-02-04 23:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by deedubya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, honestly, you shouldn't.
First of all, you're still too young to think about marriage.
Secondly, he may not mean what he says, as in maybe he only says it just because he feels like doing so. And not for long-term plan.
Thirdly, it doesn't mean that he's in good position, you should marry him. That's ridiculous.
Fourthly, you don't love him as someone more than a friend. This is why you shouldn't marry him.
Let me elaborate more on the 4th point.
Marriage is a huge and important thing. It doesn't just mean being together, but it does take a lot of hardwork from both partners. It's something more.
Since you don't love him, you shouldn't force yourself to marry the guy that you don't even love. This will eventually lead to heartbreaks, the guy will surely get to know the truth in the end.
You're ruining your life and as well as the guy's life by pretending to be in love with him and that you marry him.
So please think twice, and don't make any mistake in this.
It's something important in your whole life, one wrong decision may cause you to regret forever.
Tell him politely that you'll like to remain friends with him.
It takes time to love someone.
2007-02-04 22:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by FSC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him you're doing him and yourself a favor by saying no. If you don't think you could ever feel that way about him say you can still be friends. He may not want to be friends with you anymore because there might be a little bit of awkwardness, but a girl can try. If you think you could possibly have romantic feelings for him in the future ask him out on a few dates and see where it goes from there. Don't do something you don't feel is right because you think you have to or it might hurt someone.
2007-02-04 22:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by tiger_lilies09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not. you answered your question you don't love him. you'll only regret it later. You an 18 year old girl and there are many things ahead of you. You are an engineering student who has a bright future. If he really loves you and isn't looking for just a bride he can wait. Besides you don't have feelings for him. Another factor is age, that is still young and are too gullible in decision making. I say don't do it but the answer lies within you.
2007-02-04 22:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by Princess Shai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maya,
You are still growing, naturally need some proper guidance.
First of all you if you are actually interested in him then only find out his actual history regarding his practical life, friendship and parents relation.
Marriage is not a game, if you are interested take some time from him and study each others nature because the nature and behaviour changes with age and lot many factors determine it. If you find every thing fine then only info your Parents.
And if you are not interested then tell that fellow to squeeze his ****.
Bye
2007-02-04 23:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
?? You auto answer your own question! U dont love him so NO dont accept hhim. He hasa good position that not an excuse, look at you you are studying engineering in a few years you will also have a good Job, maybe noyt as good as his , dfdont know, but you could live or own and being with someone you love. So plz , dont attacht to man only os he hasa "good position" or cos is " friend"
2007-02-04 22:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your heart and body is not accepting him. And you can see him only as your best friend. Then the best way is to call him for coffee. Make him feel comfortable. And without hesitating tell him the truth and tell him in such a manner that he should not feel bad. And give tie him a friendship band.
2007-02-04 22:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by suresh pillay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can accept him if
a) you don't have any other boy friends with whom you are in love at present.
b) you think he will get you everything since he is now in a good position
c) you think your parents will also accepts him
d) you think he is a good person and don't have any bad habits
and finally
e) you think your present age of 18 is OK for the marriage.
2007-02-04 22:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by Ravi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U don't love him, then why do u want to accept him. Because he is in a good position. What if he loses that position tomorrow, will u divorce him ? I think selfish marriage will not work. Forget him.
2007-02-04 23:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋