Can any1 plz tell me what is wrong with my 15 yr old???

Question

My 15 yr old son is the oldest in our family including older then ALL his cousins.. so whenever we have company over what he does is come downstairs says hi 2 every1 and then goes up 2 his room and either reads a book, studys, go on msn or play niintendo wii. and wont be seen untill dinner time... Another thing that i am also worried about is that today he has 2 chose grade 11 courses 4 next yr so yesterday when i suggested him asking his father 2 c which courses his father wants him 2 take he quickily replied no and said he Knows wat 2 take and wont ask his father anythig so please help me what can i do 4 him and whatt on earth is wrong with him

to the answer of the last question no he is not a loner he is very populer but all his friends live 30-1h away from him

Answer 1

im having the same prob with my nearly 15 year old and i have been told that its just one of those things that teenagers go through and not to worry to much about it ...just let him do what he wants to do as if you keep on at him he will dig his heals and and do the opp...also think about when you were a teenager your body is going through some tough changes at the mo aswell...just stick in there

someone needs to write a book on how to raise teens as i think it would help a lot of us...

Answer 2

UMM... he's fifteen....I don't see anything unusual or out of ordinary he's a regular teen, no worries.
I must comment on how polite he is to come downstairs and say hello to everyone, thumbs up for that.
As for his studies/courses for next year, I wouldn't worry a whole lot, the guidance counselor (or career counselor) usually talks to the students and makes sure they're taking the necessary or required courses, to graduate. When he starts grade eleven, be aware of what courses he has and if there is any questions, ask the son first about why he chose the courses and then his counselor if you require more info.
You'd be surprised how many teens are aware of what they require for University/ College (usually they know a lot more than the parents). Don't sweat it, sounds like he's on the right track.

Answer 3

He sounds perfectly fine to me. He is old enough and responsible enough to choose his own courses for school. If his parents didn't want him to, or wanted him to take something else they would change it.

As for going off on his own, I am the oldest of all of my cousins and a lot of the time I would do the same thing, starting about age 14. The next oldest was my sisters age and they played together, so I wasn't interested. I think he is growing up just fine, so no need to worry : )

Answer 4

Sometimes us teens feel like the world is on top of us. Hell, i should now! Your son might not feel in a talkative mood. Whenever my relatives come round, sometimes I'll nip down to see them, but then go back to wathing a DVD or wehatever caude I can;t hack the company. If your son doesnt know these people are coming round maybes he's just a bit miffed. Take this advice from another 15 year old please! It might just be that he's miffed with you- sometimes I feel like whatever anyone does it annoies me and have to stay out of there way. And regarding the coruses, ask him what he was thinking of doing before you speak- he might feel more open to suggestion then.

Hope you solve this!

Answer 5

As teens mature they will start pulling away from their parents. This can come across as teens always seeming to have different opinions than their parents or not wanting to be around their parents.

Maintain your expectations about appropriate grades, behavior, and adherence to the rules of the house. Pick Your Battles to things that really matter, like tobacco, drugs and alcohol.

Real warning signs somthing is wrong:
extreme weight gain or loss
sleep problems
rapid, drastic changes in personality
sudden change in friends
skipping school continually
falling grades
talk or even jokes about suicide
signs of tobacco, alcohol, or drug use
run-ins with the law

Answer 6

I don't think theres anything wrong with him, sounds like he's the type of person who likes his own space and likes to do things on his own. You should count yourselves lucky. A lot of people his age would be out drinking and taking drugs and getting into all sorts of trouble. Thats the way I was when I was 15. Sounds like your kid is a good kid even if he might be a bit of a loner. If he knows what subjects to take I think you should let hm choose himself as he'll most likely do best at subjects he likes

Answer 7

Be very thankful he goes to his room !!!! My son is also fifteen !!! The biggest pain in the *** I have ever met. God knows i love this child but he is the most annoying thing I have ever seen.

I hope its just teenage stuff for us both. Your son sounds calm, wanna trade lol HAHA My son has ADD...... When i ask him a serious question he tires to be funny and replies with stupid things like..............." chicken noodle pie" I'm like what????

He has a very high IQ and is in 11-12Th grade classes as well, his class alone has over 900 kids. He goes to a huge high school. I get reports home, that hes a joy to have in class for the teachers he likes but if he doesn't like them he works hard to annoy them.

nothing like asking the kid " how was your day Hun?" And getting the reply " I eat 5 times a day. Id love for my kid to be quiet in his room. lol.

Your son is perfectly normal. He's just growing up and doesn't want to feel like you have to make all his choices now. Just be thankful he is making good choices. He could be out doing drugs or making babies........................

Answer 8

Mom don't freak out, he is perfectly OK. At his age a lot of teenagers spend a lot of time alone. They are figuring themselves out, and where they stand on every issue from sex to the goverment. What you don't relaize is most of time it may look to you as he isn't doing a lot but, really he is thinking and analyzing a lot.
As far as the classes go, he is asserting himself and trying to grow up. He probably sees asking his dad about classes something he did as a child, not as an adult.
This is the hardest age, you to young for a lot but, to old for a lot too, you spend time trying to build yourself an idenity, of your own, with in your family, school, friends, peers.
Its tough. You said he is popular,and so forth, so unless that changes drastically, or you notice other really odd behavior, he's probably fine..just growing up mom.
Best thing to do is respect his privacy, but, don't over indulge it either.

Answer 9

Personal experience as a child, don't give your son too much freedom this will get to his head and soon realize he's controlling things and become a rebel. Also monitor what he does on the computer you never know what he might be doing. And I guess your son is trying to be independent, typical teenager behavior. Just keep trying to get involved and ask his opinions aswell, cheers =).

Answer 10

Sorry to tell you that the problem is.. that he's 15 !
My daughter is 17 and is like that too. She is a little selfish and stubborn and will never talk to her father. I have to do all the talking between him and her, because they both easily get upset when they talk (same personality..). Both touchy.
I guess we spoiled them a little... :-) That doesn't mean they're bad though. They will change by growth. I talk to her a lot and I see she's changed a bit since last year.