I've dated a lot of Filipinas, and I immediately get the church discussion out of the way - I'm never going. The Catholic Church is the biggest cause of poverty (read: overpopulation) in this country.
Such topics have to be cleared up early in a relationship.
Filipinas are very sweet, but the biggest character flaw they have (generally speaking), is that they believe every bit of gossip they hear, and usually believe other pinoys over foreigners, even when there would be no reason to doubt the foreigner - almost to a completely irrational extent.
A general tip for dating girls of other cultures which can save you a lot of trouble:
- They have a bank account in their own currency equal to yours (ie: you have $US20,000, they should have 20,000 pesos)
- They should have a visa to travel to your country already, or be able to get one without your assistance
- They should have the same educational background as you (both are high-school grads, or both are college grads, etc....)
If one of these three criteria aren't met, you may be wasting your (and hers as well) time. Criteria 3 is certainly the most important.
2007-02-05 07:03:20
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answered by Sanmigsean 6
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im sure she just misunderstood. filipinas are very understanding. we do sometimes (or perhaps most of the time) take words and action seriously, but this doesnt mean filipinas are not open minded when it comes to things. we are just so passionate that even though we are strong, we easily get hurt by the people who are dear to us. you seem like a very nice american man and it takes guts to say that you are in love with a filipina because there are people here who criticize different race relationship. i commend you because as early as now, you've thought the possibility of her becoming your wife. there's only one thing i can say about culture. in every relationship, whether it's with the same race or not, you have to do and understand things to make it work, much more if you have different culture. just stay happy man and im sure she's happy.
* she's upset because you dont intend to celebrate one of the most important celebrations of the filipinos, this only means that YOU are important to her too, so she wants you to experience something as important as this. be happy with that.
2007-02-05 04:44:36
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answered by Anonymous
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Sunshine is right,if you do intend to marry a filipina at least know her culture,though you are not a catholic,show her that you love her by going with her to church,that's one way of showing your love and that you mean well and your intentions are good.You see one way of getting throught her is through religion,most filipinas/filipinos are catholics and they take their religion as part of choosing their lifetime partner.Definitely there are cultural differences,there are still filipinas who are conservative,and I guess your girlfriend is still one of the few conservatives.We are malambing (sweet) to our partner and can be passionate if we want to,Maybe her being emotional is just a way to test your patients and your intention with her.Just do what she pleases,but not to the extream and you should talk about your limitation.Communication is still the best.
2007-02-04 22:24:04
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answered by mommyleo 3
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She aint the right one my friend. For you to have to even ask this question tells me that. There about a gozzillion more filipinas over there to pick from. Don't tolerate any one who cause you grief of any kind. Whoever you marry you're going to end up supporting her family anyway so you better find one who makes your toes curl up just being near her. That way you don't end up in a miserable situation that you can't get out of.
2007-02-05 03:48:48
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answered by Anonymous
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As a black guy, you in all probability be attentive to a minimum of something approximately prejudice and lack of expertise between people of all hues and religions. i'm Caucasian (yet a Roman Catholic from the deep South), and that i'm married to a Korean. Many individuals stupidly assume that Asian different halves have been prostitutes or bar females - and in basic terms married to "get to the U. S.". yet there is somewhat little you're able to do to do away with such misconceptions. stupid people stay stupid people even after being advised the information. And - there is the issue that there are some women persons who deserve the attractiveness. Prejudice potential "to prejudge"; this is, to replicate on somebody a genuine or perceived function of a team. whilst my spouse utilized for her fiancee visa, a Korean worker of the yank Embassy in Seoul, for the duration of her interview, flatly advised her that "prostitutes such as you come back right here time-honored for visas" to marry individuals, and that he became into going to postpone her visa. Little did he be attentive to that her uncle became into the Seoul chief of Police and her mom became into then a member of the Korean Parliament. He became into fired, in spite of the incontrovertible fact that it shows prejudice on the area of the two Koreans and individuals. you in basic terms could submit with ignorant people; you'll be above their pettiness. i'm happy to take heed to your Filipina spouse is so form. undergo in innovations, this occasion is extra puzzling on her than on you on account that she is the objective of the lack of expertise. help her, love her, and attempt to guard her.
2016-10-01 11:05:22
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answered by Anonymous
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Oh, don't worry about that. Soon enough, she will finally realize that religion is not a hindrance if two people are in love with each other. Simply accept her... her good and bad side if you really love her. For sure, you will be her destiny and she will be your destiny.
Good luck :)
2007-02-04 23:43:57
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answered by Maganda 3
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Id she loves you, then she would understand why you are not going to church..sori matye but this sounds so one-sided and I bet she is also very possessive about you just like the others....
you got to tell her to live in reality and not like those romance pocket books they read.....good luck!
2007-02-05 01:03:41
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answered by SHIH TZU SAYS 6
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Just dont send her money when she starts asking for it to prove that you really love her.
2007-02-04 23:34:11
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answered by EaglesEyeView 3
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that's our holy week... i think u have to go to church with her.. i bet u will like it.. our tradiiton..
f u expect to get married to her someday... maybe u have to learn our culture...by the way, u can't marry someone if you have diff. religion here in the philippines... unless u convert... or she converts to ur religion... i doubt....
2007-02-04 21:56:08
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answered by shyne 4
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Good luck!
2007-02-05 03:12:57
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answered by Dave Star 4
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