I've been feeling like this for far too long now and getting tired of pretending/pushing myself to do stuff.I was on flouxetine a few yrs back,a double dose.I stopped taking them abruptly but now I know that I should have decreased the dosage gradually.I find it hard to go sleep,cannot wake up, emotionless and am always thinking negative.I don't feel happy about anything and there are times when I just burst into tears for no aparent reason.This is really affecting my outlook on life,life itself and all my relationships.I will be purchasing over the net.Wise decision or not?Does anyone know of a good site?I'm in China so seeing a therapist will be close to impossible,ie.language difference.How do I work my way through this and overcome(when hubby doesn't think there's a problem?
2007-02-04 21:36:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You should talk to your doctor about how you feel. You may have clinical depression which can be treated successfully with a drug, or two.
2007-02-04 21:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by voodooprankster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'd come up with a way so that my husband read your post. Print it out and leave it where he will find it, etc.
Second, there is power in positive thinking. Just don't try to change everything all at one time. Pick out one constant negative thought, and actively try to make a list of the positives that are on the other side of the negative. Re-read that list each time that negative thought comes up.
Can you find an acupuncturist? They can sometimes work wonders and would also serve as a positive effort to outweigh the negatives.
Do you have books available? There are many good ones that deal with this problem. Depak Chopra is one good author. But there are many others.
Hang in there, and try to find little victories which will then lead to more successes.
I lived in a country where I didn't speak the language for four years, so I have some idea of what you are faced with.
And I know you can do it!
2007-02-04 21:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by gwhillikers2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From suffering with depression for 7 years now and having a spouse or someone close to you not understand, I know exactly how you feel. Its frustrating when you're told "it will pass" or "get over it" when you know it won't and you can't unless you have some sort of guidance and support, esp. when you have been feeling this way for a period of time.
If you're in China due to perhaps husband being military, check with military health care. I am in Germany because husband is military and that is what I did. If your husband or you were perhaps re-located there because of a job or your husband is from China then ask your husband if he knows of any place you could see a therapist or perhaps an insurance provider or maybe talk to your Dr., if you have one there. You could always do an online search as well.
If you have exhausted all your options and are left with nothing, you can always try online support groups or perhaps self help books. I have posted a link with a couple Depression Support groups that you can browse through and a link to information about a book my Therapist gave me. Its called "The Feeling Good Handbook" but David D. Burns. Its about coping with anxiety, depression and life's everyday problems through Cognitive Behavioral Theory. He believes that one feels the way they do because of how they think and the book tries to guide you into changing your way of thinking about certain things and helping you battle depression and anxiety without the use of medicine. I myself have been on medication for 5 years when I stopped due to pregnancy and I don't wish to get back on it.
I wish you the absolute best of luck.
2007-02-04 22:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by galaciel21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
medications help, but only on a certain level. You need to choose how it goes... you stopped it... good for you...
if this is hormonal you need a doctor or maybe you need to sweat it out... jogging, workout and lots of water...
if this is emotional... find the cause of it... maybe family members... being far from home... being in an unknown place with nothing to do... being uncapable of having the things you need at the time...
if it is mental... you are depressing yourself... change the way you look at yourself... change the way you look at the country and it's people... change the way you are feeling right now... if you feel lonely, you need time to bring it all out... maybe there is something you don't like... change that thought...
if it is spiritual, try to find other people from your country or hometown so you can have a buddy.... or someone in the same religion... or someone who could understand what you are going through and support you...
try to find out what is wrong... ask yourself that and things will turn out well... you will find an answer.
remember the time when you are most happy and you will fly... like Peter Pan...;-)
2007-02-04 22:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by DEADPOOL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI ,i'm not an expert but i do know that depression can lifted ,by change of diet, positive thinking .small daily victories ie;acheiving something, solving a small problem. try writing little positive post-its about yourself put them where you can see them. as for diet ,eat lots salads ,fruit & nuts .cook fresh food lots of fish, very little bread.The Japanese people have the lowest levels of depression in the world attributed to fish diet.lastly your husband is right it WILL PASS for sure,that is one of the tricks of depression you think it will last for ever ,not so.I think you are right to stop medication.cheer up think of all the people with no home. China must be a great to live. have you read Monkey?
2007-02-04 21:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by ak.gossland 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I lived in China, I'd be depressed too.
2007-02-04 22:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by rockin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋