Im 15 And I Am Bi-Sexual And I Want To Tell My Mom But Im Scared Too?

Question

Yeah Im Bi-Sexual and im only 15 and I want to tell my mom but im scared too casue she might look at me different and not accept it and I don't want to hurt her but I want her to know the true me. And plus I have heard the way she puts down gays and bi people and I hate it. And the only ppl that really know im bi is my best friends and they have ran there mouth to the whole school and im afraid of what people will think of me and that if I do tell everyone that I won't be able to make friends. What Should I Do? Please Someone Help Me On This!!!!!!!

Answer 1

first of all, you shouldnt be scared of showing who you really are, of what other people might think of you. you have to be proud of who you are or else this might take a toll on your self esteem as you grow older. every parent has that fear also because of what other people might think of them. or how they raised their kids. but nonetheless, your mom will accept you for who you are because parents love their children. it will also help her realize to stop from degrading other gays or lesbians. hopefully she realizes that whatevera person is, respect is still entitled to them.

Answer 2

OK, first of all, you were born this way. It's not something you should feel guilty about, so don't waste any energy on those that want to make you feel that way; they're only trying to stamp out any opinions other than their own so theirs sounds like the truth. Getting involved with a church isn't going to "cure" or "fix" anything; in fact it's only going to make you hate yourself even more until you realize that Jesus loves all, even the LGBT community.

But anyway, I went through the very same thing you're going through, except I'm gay. The only thing I can tell you is, it's like ripping off a Band-Aid. Do it as quickly and as honestly as possible, but give her some time to accept it. It's not going to be easy for her, I won't lie, but that's just part of the process. Putting it off until later won't make it easier for her. If you're afraid she might kick you out of the house, wait until you have somewhere else to go (just in case) when you tell her. AND FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, DON'T BRING YOUR BOYFRIEND. Personal experience here, it's just awkward for everybody. Let us know how it goes!

And it may be best to take the advice of someone older than 12, i.e., someone who really "knows this stuff". It's not abuse, it's being 12.

Answer 3

What's the rush in coming out? You're not going to be marrying anyone anytime soon.

Concentrate on your studies. Do yourself proud. Your mother will come to terms with it when she is satisfied that you're "old enough" to know for certain. If you don't like her attitude towards gays and bi-folk, let her know (educate her).

As for making friends, friends are not lovers and real friends don't give a damn about the gender of the person you sleep with.

So don't fret! Below are a couple of links that may help you get through all of this.

Answer 4

Hey I'm in the same boat, although i'm a lesbian. but here are some answers people told me: (sorry bit long) - My daughter waited until she was older and more sure of her self to tell me. My answer was "At least you won't show up at my door single and pregnant." Her mom was not so understanding. I have found that fathers tend to be more supportive of gay daughters while mothers are more accepting of gay sons. At your age your parents may not be as ok with it as when your older. At 15 we all thought we knew what, where, when and why. As we get older we realize more and more just how naive we were. There is no second chance to tell them. I would suggest waiting and getting into the LGBT community for a while to get more comfortable with it and yourself. That way you can use the info and experience of others in your situation to best find a way/time to discuss it with your parents. If your mother is the one you trust to not have an issue with it, start with her and she can help you come out to your father. This way you will have her support and knowledge in handling you father and his feelings. Good luck and remember to have patience. - I've changed my opinion in recent years about making a big announcement of coming out to (disapproving) family and friends. Instead, I advocate simply living your life as you see fit, being coy as necessary to keep peace, and smiling when asked "when are you going to get a boyfriend?" Tell them that your life-mate will come along soon enough and you're in no hurry to tie yourself down. To those who would DIRECTLY ask if you're a lesbian, ask why they would think they have a right to ask such a personal question. Turn the tables on them, shame them for being a "Nosy Parker" if you can -- and change the subject. Ask them, for example, if they ever filed for bankruptcy or ever wanted to have sex with a child. While some people can be mean and bigoted, they usually aren't stupid when it comes to observing the behavior of others. Those who figure it out will have figured it out without your help. Then, should they bring it up will realize they're invading your privacy. They wouldn't want THEIR privacy invaded, so it's a one-hand-washes-the-other thing. Feel free to keep your actual dating as private as possible. It's your right.

Answer 5

First of all, those friends of yours aren't really friends, running their mouth around your school and telling people stuff you don't want them to know is no friendship. 2nd, I don't tell my mom I'm straight, why should you justify your sexuality, is like justifying who you are. 3rd, if you want to tell your mom, because you might be close to her and because you love her, then go ahead and tell her, don't be afraid, if she has something to say against who you are then she doesn't love you like she should, because she should accept you and love you for whatever you are because you are her son. If she has something against your sexuality then there's something wrong with her, not with you honey. You have a big playing field, of both sexes, lucky you ;).

Answer 6

u need to like girls look im not saying there anything wrong with bi-s but u should show everyone u like girls to if u need to like girls (in a secret:watch Porn)i know this stuff and im only 12.Could no one evr mark me as abuse

Answer 7

What is it like with your dad ? Was he in your life at all?
You could be seeking fatherly love.
We have a Father who cares about you and me deeply.
His love has changed my life , he you to know His love .


He is real, and knowable . He created you , and passionately cares about
you , and wants to have a relationship with you. He communcates with us
from within ourselves, He speaks softly heart to heart, soul to soul . His
Spirit desires to connect with our
emotions.

Answer 8

i think Americans teens are kinda bisexuals...but here in the Philippines, a bisexual is automatically a gay or a lesbian...jeez...America is really a bigot

Answer 9

Just don't tell her...

Answer 10

You should be, it is wrong and disgusting. Go find God.