I am happily engaged to my fiancee and we have a fantastic time together. The thing is, i am a secret transvestite and i really want to get dominated in bed by a big strong man whilst im dressed up. I'm fully aware that this is wrong behaviour and i wish i could rid myself of these immoral thoughts but i can't as my lust seems to have taken control of me, it's as if it's more powerful than my own willpower. Is lust a terrible thing? and if so, how do i rid mysdelf of it?
2007-02-04 21:03:22 · 8 answers · asked by wildchild44 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you can't resist it there is probably no chance for a cure or being able to resist it much longer. Sometimes accepting the behavior within yourself is the only way to have some control over it. Perhaps you can allow yourself to dress female and fantasize about men without guilt. That just may allow you to control physically being with men.
Please tell your fiance right away at least about the transvestism and perhaps you can work something out. If you don't tell her, she will feel there is something you are hiding and will sense that you are cheating on her or something and your relationship is doomed anyway. Be gentle and give her some time to adjust.
2007-02-06 11:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably open up to your fiancee' NOW about your secret fantasy. If she finds out later, it could destroy your marriage. If it turns her on, you "win". Better to be open about it now than show up on Jerry Springer later and go through a messy divorce. You might also have to indulge her fantasy in return, whatever that might be. Lust is biological AND emotional, but deceiving your fiancee is NOT a good thing. Better to prevent a bad ending to a marriage by telling her the truth NOW.
2007-02-04 21:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A: There is nothing "Wrong" with this behavior.
B: Lust is normal and natural and happens to most everyone.
C: The fact that you suppress yourself but still dwell on it gives power to the obbsession.
If you talked to someone about it and perhaps explored it a lil you would find it would lose some of its grip on ya.
2007-02-04 21:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found absolutely no way to rid myself of lust. As corny as it sounds the only thing that I've ever found to help me has been Jesus. The bible teaches that the marriage bedroom is undefined so I really believe that passionate sex is totally great for a marriage, but I don't know what to tell you besides, what's helped me.
Good luck :)
2007-02-04 21:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by infamousheavyt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lust is wrong, no matter how you look at it, and surly if you have these kids of feelings, should you chance a marriage know how you feel? the only way from this kind of lust is throught prayer, and you must have a willing heart to want to change.. nothing happens on its own, there must be some action take on your part..
Good luck.. God Bless
2007-02-04 21:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lorene 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Open up to your fiancée. Confess these dark desires to her. If she opts to stay with you - you may find satisfaction in being dominated by her (while dressed up).
Either way, if you can't be totally honest with her - what chance your marriage?
2007-02-04 21:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm fully aware that this is wrong behaviour" ????????????
Can someone pls explain to me why this is wrong behaviour?
Ditch the fiance, follow your lust....just stay safe and dont hurt anyone in the process.....intentionally!
2007-02-04 21:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by sonny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a fantasy, keep it in your head. You do it for real it won't measure up to what you have built up in your head, so just keep it there.
2007-02-04 22:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by JML 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋