I've got a friend from high school who I've remained in contact with for years after...
If you can imagine, everytime she calls or I call, it's all about her problems... I always suggest ways of tackling them, which makes her feel better, but she never acts on them....
She's the type of person who feels sorry for herself all the time and feels the world owe's her everything...
She's a very nice gal, but she is just such a drain on the emotions everytime I speak to her.....
Should I just try to be more patient with this gal or perhaps bring the friendship 'back a few steps'...?
Difficult situation when I've known her for so long.
2007-02-04 20:39:50 · 4 answers · asked by B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I was in the same situation, you have to make the decision if this friendship is truly taking its toll. if you can't handle being her personal therapist every time you talk, I would suggest you start pulling away slowly. Explain and let her know the reasons you are doing this. A friendship is two-sided be honest and maybe the friendship will change for the better. good luck
2007-02-04 20:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by sayj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean.
Try saying in a nice way, "I'm glad that you trust me enough to share your feelings with, but I also think we've been over these issues over and over again. I've given you my opinion many times on this and other issues. You don't have to accept my opinion. And it seems that you never accept it anyway. I've told you all I can. I can't add anything else. So please change the subject and let's talk about something we can agree on. It's not fair to me."
2007-02-05 04:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by zzzzzzzzz27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one of these friends. You keep them around because they're familiar even when you know you're tired of being their friend. Their familiarity makes you feel guilty if you were to break the friendship. Perhaps you shouldn't talk to her as much or tell her gently that you want to hear less of her problems.
2007-02-05 04:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by yellowscissors 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand.....
dont stop talking 2 her or anythin...it might make mattres worse..i suggest u bring the frnd.shp back a few steps..
cal er once in a while but try not getting too involved with her...u know give her the ;I hav other stuff 2 worry about; feel...
i hope things workout 4 u...
2007-02-05 05:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by starfire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋