My husband is a very practical person.I know he doesnt need me.He hates everything about me and verbally and physically abuses me.He seems to have only female colleagues.He goes on travel with them till late night.I am not able to cope with this.But have to stay with him for the sake of my only daughter.I do not have parents.
2007-02-04 20:19:23 · 18 answers · asked by distressed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear child I have gone through both your questions & I feel really sorry for you & your child. But before I give you any legal advice how to get your legal right as a wife & mother implemented I want to inform you that any step you take on this legal path can bring more sufferings for you. More so you have not mentioned if you are Indian, married under which Indian form of marriage, your religion, & living in India? Under the Indian legal system different form of marriage/divorce/maintenance/custody of child etc are governed by different laws, so this information is necessary. But beside this I personally feel going into any sort of matrimonial battle with your husband will not be good for you. A newly enacted law regarding domestic violence against the women can get you protection order & monetary compensation from your husband for any domestic violence he commit against you such as physical & oral abuses etc. For this you have to fill a formal complaint to the protection officer or to the magistrate directly. But before you start any legal proceedings against your husband you must try other methods to mend your husband. Best is take help of your relatives & friends to speak to him & make him understand your point of view. A marriage counselor can also help you out in this. I will not advice you to involve police in this issue as it can spoil you matrimonial life more. You can write to me directly with the facts I have asked you above.
2007-02-05 01:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, um, calm down. You're being fairly dramatic. Just because your husband is a jerk it doesn't mean that you can't live. Anyways, this is what you should do. Call up the local women's shelter and go there with your daughter. If you and your husband have a joint bank account, it might be a good idea to get some money before you can't access it anymore. From there you can get the help you need. Good luck!
2007-02-05 04:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that bad you gotta get out. It's the best thing for you and your kid, especially if he abuses you emotionally and physically. You cannot help your daughter if you cannot help yourself.
I can't imagine how tough it will be if you move on, especially if you don't have, at the very least, adequate support but if you love your kid you'll make it work. But goddam, it sounds like your damned if you do or damned if you don't. At least if you tell him to piss off you'll leave with some pride, dignity, a more promising future and, most importantly, your daughter.
I hope this helps, even only a little bit. Good luck, I hope it all works out.
...M0uthpiece...
2007-02-05 04:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to someone about this. You sound a little desperate. This worries me. You have to be strong for your little girl. Your husband not desiring you does not mean that it is the end of the world. You can never make a human being your world and your life.......if you do that you are in danger because all human beings are failing. Talk to someone in church or an elder in your community and get advise. don't try to deal with it alone. It helps when you share it with someone. Good luck.
2007-02-05 05:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Nats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know I just answered similar question?
Question was: I have lost trust in my husband as I feel he has cheated on me? by distressed Member since: 01 December 2006
Time for divorce
File divorce papers before you speak with him again
You cannot trust many local blokes they will only abuse you more and make it worse
Off course you know the choice is yours and you alone face the consequences.
You will be influenced by lover, friend, relative, neighbours and even strangers but end of the day choice is yours. You make the choice and you face the consequences.
2007-02-06 03:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you get out on your own? You're an adult. Staying in an abusive relationship isn't helping your daughter because you're allowing yourself to be hurt. If you don't have a job then get one. There are agencies that will help you out if you try to help yourself. You shouldn't use your daughter as an excuse to stay where you are. That's weak. You need to stand on your own two feet. Look at the example that you are showing your daughter. You think you're showing her strength and independence by forcing her to endure what you are? Get out. Make a change. Call an agency for help and don't go back to this man!
2007-02-05 04:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't feel obligated to stay just because you have a daughter.. Do you really think she wants to see this, exp. when he is abusing you, It will more then likely hurt your daughter more then you. You need to get help from the local police, they can offer you assistants. Don't feel like your alone, hundreds of people go through this everyday. It seems to me he really wouldn't care if you left or not. Do it for the sake and well being of your daughter.
2007-02-05 04:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by ompie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have not made any mention about your financial condition, I presume that you are not a earning member in your family I would suggest you to start earning money and increase your financial capability. When you become financially independent ,it will give you internal strength& courage to face up to any eventuality. It will help to improve your daughter's future and may act as deterrent for your husband present unhealthy activities.
2007-02-05 04:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by Vinor_pan1942 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can manage withou being hurt then stay.Otherwise i would advise you to start something that will help you earn a living and once established leave him and go with your dauhgter.You may die from AIDS because if his movements and who will be there to look after your daughter.Dont kill youself in the name of looking after your only child.You can better look after your child at a distance but still alive than dead but very close.
2007-02-05 04:27:40 · answer #9 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have really landed in a difficult situation... I have seen this type of husbands very closely... they are beasts... and should be dealt with sternly...
I do not know whether I am right or wrong... but I think... you should become more aggressive and make his life a real hell by shouting at him at the top of your voice, retaliate at his misbehaviour and warn him of yet more painful life if he did not rectify his habits...
He has already spoiled your life... you should also not hesitate in devastating his life...
Hope he changes with this shock treatment…
2007-02-05 04:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Harish Jharia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋