Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months now. She is 18 i am 17. she has like a 3.95 gpa through high school, never has done a drug, doesnt drink, i guess u could say that she is a "goodie good girl". she has had one boyfriend in her life... they went out for 6 months and never kissed once. our first kiss was on her birthday like 20 some days after we started dating. we kinda move slow if you couldnt have already noticed.i love her and she says she loves me BUt my question is how do i ask her if she wants to go "farther".I know i am ready but i am afraid that she wont be ready. should i ask her about it or should i just start feeling her? please tell me what you think thanx!
2007-02-04 19:58:33 · 7 answers · asked by Johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't feel on her, ask her, its much more polite
2007-02-04 20:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me that you respect her because you were willing to wait 20 days for a kiss. I think that you should sit down and talk to her. You don't know what her situation really is. You could start feeling on her, but that could work against you. For all you know she could be a rape victim or anything. Talk to her. Tell her you love/like her and that you wanted to know where she stands on sex. She may be saving her virginity for her husband. If you are ready to have sex, the mature thing to do first is to talk about sex. If she is saving herself and you are not prepared to wait. Be honest with her and then move on. I think it is great that you posed this question, it will give other people something to think about. If you do love her, respect whatever she says.
2007-02-05 06:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by aprildin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to speed anything up and try to do something out of the blue. You're both at a really good and safe pace.
If I were you, I'd wait for something special like an one year anniversary to even do anything.
But to get her have sex is just feel around her and endlessly kiss her on a couch, bed, or anything like that. It'd be best to just sleep with her without sex first though, but like together cuddling. It'll make her know that you're not a sex driven maniac, and will make girls like her want to say with you.
2007-02-05 04:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by Pristine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something called body language which tell about the person more than what he / she says to you. That is the gestures, the eye contact, the movement etc, etc read all these and act accordingly and nature will take care of the rest.
2007-02-05 04:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way wld work...if u start feeling her and she dislike it, she will ask u to stop...and u must stop and dun be pissed. To be a gentleman, ask her if she is ok with it..that way u will know the answer before u even start feeling her. Some girls are ok with it and some don't...they might think u just want to get into her pants...get my drift?
2007-02-05 04:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and tell her how you feel but don't ever start touching her in any inappropriate way.
2007-02-05 04:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Van 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her. She might be scared to ask herself.
2007-02-05 04:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋