I met this guy on the net. he was having trouble coming to terms with an identity crisis. i wanted to help put things in perspective, make him see that there is nothing wrong with who he is. i thought i had managed to make him see that since no matter what you do you can't make everyone happy, you might as well do what it takes to make you happy. provided, of course, what you do doesn't hurt you or anyone else, endanger any futures and it's not ilegal. i thought i had helped him figure out his problems and move on.
however... i started noticing that he began to ask my advice on everything, and to always follow it. in trying to help him gain control of his life, it seems what i accomplished was to make him hand over control to me. i stayed away for some time, hoping my absence would fix that. however, as soon as i re-appeared, he went back to the same old habits. except he's more aggressive now.
2007-02-04 19:42:12 · 7 answers · asked by gwenwifar 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
he is downright pushy now in looking for an opinion from me, and has told me several times he'll do whatever i tell him to do. except of course, when i tell him to make his own decisions.
i am not interested in running his life. and i seem to have made a mess. since it's my mess, i'd like to do something to fix it. any ideas?
2007-02-04 19:44:29 · update #1
People like that usually grew up in very controlling households, and try to find other controlling relationships to continue what they know. If he always takes your advice, refer him to therapy.
2007-02-04 21:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by rockin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what's going on inside this person's head. I think it's a mixture of many mental issues that causes a person to behave this way. While they impersonate another person & use numerous user names, there are telltale signs that reveal who the person really is. Certain posting habits don't change, making this person's identity so obvious. This person blocks anyone who dares to disagree with their questions & that's fine with me. I expect to be left alone, because I don't bother this person. This person's paranoia convinces this person that everyone is out to get this person. I assure you, I am not & wish that this person would leave me alone. A very troubled person indeed! I've been here since Jan.2, 2007 & this is my one & only account. Check the person's dates & they're not all the same. edit: Now this person has decided that it's your turn. Look at that disgusting Avatar.
2016-05-24 15:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u have eyes? do u see this nice sign up there in the chat window? which says "ignore"? why don¨'t u put him there? of course if he is on your pal list u should delete him from the list first. and your problem solved, and if u think u a new female dr. freud u re very mistaken
2007-02-04 20:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't try to fix it. This person has problems that are too big. Ignore him and delete his e-mails without even reading them. Be smart for your own safety and peace of mind.
2007-02-04 19:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by debdini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be you're the only one that understand your friend and by following your advice, he' on the his way to improve. Do you see results? Is your friend improving? Continue to improve?
2007-02-04 20:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by typical dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just cant help some people ... your just gonna have to cut loose on this one .... block all contact and forget about it ... u did all u could this guy doesnt really want help he wants someone to blame ....
2007-02-04 19:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Claim him as a dependent on your taxes. Then, ignore him, block him, or kill him...
2007-02-04 19:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋