I found out that my girlfriend had an emotional affair in December after being together for four years. I went to talk to my friend and I confessed that I might have a crush on her. I told her that I felt very hurt because of my girlfriend's actions and that I might be just confused. We left it there and now it's February. I get the feeling that my friend who is involved with someone else, might started having feelings for me. She stares at me and when I look at her, she looks away. She sometimes touches me. If I am over at her place and needs to go, she gets annoyed. She especially gets annoyed when my girlfriend sends a text message or phones. How can I be sure about this? I don't want to loose her friendship but we can't get involved with each other if we are both still in other relationships. What should I do?
2007-02-04 19:25:09 · 9 answers · asked by PROPHET 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm wondering why you confessed to your friend back in December that you might have a crush on her? I think you are right in that you were confused and hurt by your girlfriend's actions and wanted to show that you were attracted to other people too but didn't act on it (like she did).
If you are still with your girlfriend but haven't resolved things properly then it's no wonder that the grass continues to look greener on the other side. Have you talked about her affair? Decided between you what to do? If not then some serious talking needs to go on and you need to decide whether you can stay with somebody who cheated on you or whether you need to leave.
If you decide to stay then you need to work 100% on your relationship and let your friend know that you've decided to work things out and that you would appreciate her support. If she is a true friend then any feelings she has for you will be surpressed if you make it clear that you are unavailable.
If you decide to leave then jumping into another relationship straight away is not the best idea. Take time to reflect on things and repair the hurt you feel. Mourn for your relationship - four years is a long time - and then when you are ready move on. Once you are a free agent if your friend does have feelings for you then it's up to her to decide what's best to do in her own relationship. If you are both free agents then there's a possibility there but you both need to sort things out first.
You risk much more than losing her friendship here. Talk to your girlfriend, decide what's right for you and take it from there.
2007-02-04 19:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it man, just don't do it!
If you do get into a relationship or even if you make a move and she rejects you, your friendship will be severely shaken. you won't be able to look her in the face anymore, and vice versa.
Keep the peace. Don't complicate things.
Then again maybe you have already made up your mind and you are going to do it anyway.
Either way I wish you luck. Love is SUCH a complicated issue.
:D
2007-02-04 19:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds complicated and sounds like a few people may get hurt in the process.
talk to the current and forget the potential for now, if you want to be kind end both your current relationships before moving on.
2007-02-04 19:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by caroline17nov 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
sounds like your friend is slightly jealous of you and she may be developing some feelings for you. if you love your girlfriend and your friend loves the person she's with then you need to be just friends. however if you want to be with her more than you want to be with your girlfriend and she wants to be with you more than she wants to be with hers then go from there.
2007-02-04 19:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to her and go from there.
2007-02-04 19:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by shark_315 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that she's confused...and I think you are confused by her confusing response....seriously.
2007-02-04 19:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Talk to her... then get it on with each other... maybe film it... and send it to me!
LOL!
2007-02-04 19:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Johny0555 3 · 2⤊ 5⤋
just all get in bed together sounds cool....can i watch :)
2007-02-04 19:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by a.c 3 · 3⤊ 4⤋
talk to her. that's it.
2007-02-04 19:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by nostaglia 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋