I am 17, my boyfrien is 19. He wants a baby now.. but am I to young?

Question

I am almost 18 and my boyfriend is almost 20, we are both young still but he really really wants a baby with me. He has a good job that earns him about $80 000 a year and i am still taking my grade 12. I dont no what I want to do yet for a living and im still living with my parents. would having a baby at this age make me grow up more and become a more responsible person or will it make my life more difficult then it already is as a teenager?

Answer 1

Whoa, nelly! Slow down and enjoy your childhood. You are still young (in high school) and although you could and probably would be a good parents if you had to be, there is no rush! Your question shows reservations toward being a young mom (and you are very smart for thinking about it) and rightly so, as being a mom is very hard work no matter what your age. If your boyfriend truly cares about you, he will not push you into something you are not ready to do. If he does not understand and respect your right and responsibility to decide what you should do with your own body, then let him go, he is not respectful of you and you will only have more problems down the road. Any other young mom's around that you know or can talk to? Parenting is not to be taken lightly and is an irreversible decision. Think it through and trust your instincts. Good luck!

Answer 2

I would suggest that you graduate from high school, go to college, finish your education, get a job, get married, and then have a baby.

I feel that you are too young. You need to live a little before you settle down and have a baby. By the way, how long have the two of you been together? Why does he want a baby right now? Enjoy your time together first. There will be time to have a baby. You are both still young. You will not have any privacy once you have a baby. Having a baby changes your entire life. This should be your time to spend alone together.

Yes you will grow up more and you will have to be more responsible when you have a baby. But you are still young and you still have time to grow up and become more responsible. Yes a baby will make you life more difficult, especially if you are not financially, emotionally, psychologically ready.

Just wait. You will enjoy that baby so much more if you do.

Answer 3

The teen mom of the twins gave the best advice. You have no idea how much having a baby changes EVERY THING YOU DO.I can't imagine being 15 and the mom of twins with no help from a dad. My daughter just turn 2 and she is wonderful. I had her at 28, good marriage, good job (insurance), nice home, an assoiate degree and I still find being a Mom the hardest thing I have ever done. I could write a novel and until you raise a child you still would have no idea how a baby would change everything about your life. You can't eat a complete meal without a baby crying, or then a toddler wanting a bite of you food (her food isn't as good).Not sleeping when you want to but when you can. Not going out anywhere without careful planning or finding a sitter. either stay-at-home, or working mom both have good and bad points. ALOT less sex for awhile, ETC, ETC. ETC.

Answer 4

No way! Girl, you haven't had HALF the fun you are supposed to have yet! Don't even bother worrying about his biological clock... As soon as the baby is born he will see how much work it is and both of you will be stressed and tired... It doesn't matter how much money you have. When you have a baby, it doesn't care about money! Babies want attention, and A LOT of it! Live your life! See the world if you can! Take advantage of what your parents are offering you! Think about the twirty-year-old you... the forty-year-old you... wouldn't she rather have a degree and the confidence that comes from supporting herself and knowing that any children she has were a CHOICE made by her? You will always have time to have a baby, but once it's here, it's YOURS, like it or not. Enjoy the time you have now. Babies are wonderful only if you are ready. If you don't know for sure, er on the side of caution and WAIT! :-)

Answer 5

I think that YES you are too young still. Although you boyfriend may have a good job you to need to secure your future incase things don't work out in the long run... and having a child will make this less likely. I suggest that you finish highschool, college and get a career of your own before you consider this. It seems to they way you wrote the question that you still need and want time to grow up and experience life before you are ready to have a baby and I think you are a smart girl! I'm having my first at 28 and I'm happy that I had time do alot of interesting things like go to school, move away and travel. I think if you want to do any of those things, having a baby would make it more difficult or impossible. Talk to your boyfriend and explain to him your concerns. If he really loves you, he'll wait until you both are ready! Having a child is a wonderful thing, but to fully enjoy it you have to be ready. Good luck!

Answer 6

Having a baby is a serious matter, you going to give birth to a new life and you will have the responsible to take care your baby. When you have baby, most of your time will be taken by your baby unless your parents are helping you to take care of your baby if not you going to spend your 10/12 times with your baby. You are still so young and there are still many interesting and exciting ahead for you to explore, you can have baby, but would like to tell you you will miss all your fun now if u got to have a baby. Not just making you to be responsible person after you give birth, but also your husband. Doesn't mean he earns a lot and he wants a baby you give birth to it. Its better both of you discuss to plan how would you develop you baby in a proper way.

Answer 7

What kind of job can a 19 year old have that earns 80 grand a year? I think if he expects you to have a baby at such a young age then all he wants to do is tie you down. If he loves you then he will wait until you have "at least" finished school. Having a child is a huge responsibility that should not be taken lightly. If you really want to be with him finish high school and then get married, start living together and then have a family.

Answer 8

first of all You have a life to live.... your feelings might change in the future about him or you can meet someone else who you love more... You are very very young to have baby.. You're a baby yourself and how do you think you can look after another human being? Your career is more important.. You say that he has a good job and he earns money.. What about you?? By asking for a baby, he's taking your life and your school away from you... You have to stand up on your own feet first... When you'Re grown and experienced enough you'll understand when the right time comes for a baby...

Answer 9

I agree with everybody else. I know people from high school that had kids to early, and now they are not able to go to college and most are stuck working dead end jobs. Will you be fulfilled just staying at home and raising a baby when you still have so many more good years to learn and experience new things? Wait til you graduate and figure out what you would like to do with your life before jumping into something because you're boyfriend told you to. Have a talk with you're friends and family before making a decision.

Answer 10

Tell him that you would prefer waiting. You should be able to enjoy your childhood as long as possible. You're not even out of highschool yet. Tell him to give it another year, at the least, and if you're still together by then maybe. Marriage would probably be a good idea too. Having a child is always a difficult thing, no matter how old or mature you are. If I were you I would wait until you were at least out of highschool and no longer living with your parents.