do you think i'm still normal?

Question

my grand mother died just last june23, 2006....
but until now i feel that i'm still not that aware that she died...
at the deepest part of my unconsciousness i know i'm still not aware and everytime i'm starting to understand again that she's really gone i will start crying like as if that was the first time i found out that she has died...
after her burial, i went out on some dates and i did go out a lot... i dont why there is a part of my mind keep on denying that my grandmother is already dead...
sometimes i'll just find myself hoping that she'll be around just like before...
i love her of course...
is everyone experiencing thiz way when their loved-ones died?
am i still normal?

Answer 1

it is normal for you each person deals with loss differently.

Answer 2

You are quite normal. There is nothing
wrong with you. When we have lost someone, it is very normal to hurt within, mentally, emotionall, & spiritually. Be Gentle and very Patient with yourself, giving it time. I experienced the same thing, when my father
died. I did not eat for 2 days, I only
drank water. Had to work, and still go to
night school. Tried not to be so hard on
myself, thinking I wasn't normal, but had
to give it time, being very gentle & patient
with myself. After a few weeks, I started to
spend quality time with my friends, who did
help to encourage me a lot, but I do, of
course still miss my dad, alot. He was
always there for me, a very compassionate,
trustworthy, encouraging friend, as well as
my father, I admire him, and will always
look up to him. " We should always remind
ourselves that a big part of the person
who has passed on to the next life, is
Still a Part of us, always with us. We can
always still hear their encouraging voice
within us, lifting us up, telling us that we
are loved by them; and that we are more
than able to accomplish anything we set
our Minds to."

Hope I was able to help you some. I care
about people, only wish to see people to
be Happy, having Peace of Mind, and to
suffer less in their lives. Take Care.

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Answer 3

Yes. You're still normal.In May 2005 my dad died and I never "really knew" it was true.I quit doing the things I loved and withdrew from the world.My father and I talked alot about how life is eternal and never really ends. I think part of the reason that I'm not devestated with grief over the death of the most important person in my life is that he is still with me. Maybe your Grandma is near enough to you that you don't really feel like you lost her. In December I saw my dad in a dream and he told me how happy he is and that we were right Life is Eternal ! I started doing my favorite things again and spending time with others. There is a good book called,"We are thier Heaven"by Allison Dubois. PEACE.

Answer 4

Oh, I'm so sorry. Yes, you are completely normal. One of my best friends died three years ago, and I still can't believe that it happened most of the time. You lost your grandmother just a little while ago, and it's going to take time to heal. You may always have moments where it hits you and you cry again, but they'll become less and less common.

Answer 5

Everyone grieves differently. Just because someone passes, it doesnt mean you have to scream and cry. Maybe youre strong and can handle the fact that it happened. So yes, youre still normal. You just dont grieve like other people do, thats all.

Answer 6

I think sometimes a part of you is not ready to accept the death of a loved one. Its like if you admitt to yourself they aren't coming back you wont be able to handle it. When I lost my first grandparent it was like that. Death is a very hard thing to accept, sometime when I get to thinking about all of the close family members I have lost I begin to panic. I think maybe that is why you are shutting down and not accepting your grandmothers death.

Answer 7

yes. you are still a normal person inspite of the loss in your family. you can always remember your grandma maybe because; 1. you surely love her very much and she also loves you, 2. maybe you grew up on your grandma's care.
don't worry, everytime you remember your grandma, say a little prayer for her. she'll be happy.

Answer 8

I think that is normal. Sometimes we just can't accept things the way they are. You might be feeling that way because you really love her. You still think that she's alive because it is hard for you to be apart with her and you still need her to be around.

Some of the possible caused we might think someone still alive is; if we don't go to their funeral to actually seen them buried, so our subconcious mind think they are still alive.

Answer 9

Because memories live forever inside of you, so its very easy to keeping living with them in the past, even though they are no longer with you in the now.