I and my husband married for 13years. Arrange married. We don't get along well each other, either he will try to make me angry or me will try to make him angry. Living in a kind of revenge life but fun one. Yet what trigger me was that day once we had fight and ended up my hubby beat me coz of my bad words toward him made him to punch me and I threaten him that I will make a report on him and he threaten me back that he will take poison.And the sad part was he had taken all sought of painkiller and other medicine. (nothing happen to him). I am the bad women coz of my words I throw to him. How can I stop being bad and shut my mouth up, neverthelss at times he makes things worst without intention or say something that make me hurt. Ia there any way and please do not ask me to divorce him yes I know Iam bad he don't deserve bad women like me.
2007-02-04 17:48:52 · 11 answers · asked by sharon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try to reduce ur talking........but about th "beating" part thats intolerable. No matter wat u say to him, he shouldnt lay his hand on u
2007-02-04 18:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by smart_eluh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
First lesson:
Bad, good is no reason for anyone to be laying their hands on you!
NO ONE!!!
When in frustration, leave the home, take a walk, leave the room but take a cooling off period.
It could be a good possibility that you are always lashing out at him only to the fact he is abusing you.
He needs to get into an Anger Management Group and then both seek help from a councillor.
If you intend on living as man and wife.
God !!! Hope you 2 don't have children or never have to wittiness mom and dad fighting.
Them poor things will be scared for life.
Only to be leaving them with emotional scars causing them to repeat what they have wittiness.
And that my friend is not healthy for them never alone you 2 grown ups.
Please seek help, now before to late.
Before someone ends up DEAD!!!
Just maybe you should charge him with spousal abusive ?
Might be the last time he will ever lay a hand on you or at lest it would put the fear of god in him.
He would think twice about hitting you ever again.
His cooling off time in Crow Bar Hotel!!!
2007-02-05 02:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mouth wouldn't be so bad if you invest your time in learning how to properly speak. Secondly, I won't tell you to divorce your husband because it is quite apparent that you find these beatings to be fun as well. Third, since you think you are at fault all the time next time be quiet, stop talking back to him. Personally, since you have a problem with divorcing this clown, I would say report him or let him take the double doses of the poison.
2007-02-05 03:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he took the poison because he regrets hitting you but not really the fact that you were bad mouthing him. He must have felt bad about him physically abusing you so he thought its best to run away from the problem.
I think you guys should talk to each other about the problems each of you are facing. Like for example writing it down and the both of you talking about it to try to solve it out. Try to keep your composure together when he gets pissed off and walk away.. try not provoke a fight.
best of luck
2007-02-05 01:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by ferris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are NOT a bad woman. All of us speak out now and then. I think the two of you should go to some counseling and they will tell you what you can do to get along.
2007-02-05 02:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by busybody12 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are not hte only bad person in the marriage
2007-02-05 02:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It`s easy if you like gold. Silence is golden.
2007-02-05 01:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by J.SWAMY I ఇ జ స్వామి 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use Moving Tape........Or get on some good Meds!!!
2007-02-05 02:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by Skinz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. a man should NEVER hit a woman. period.
2007-02-05 01:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by tinap1203 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is just really messed up.......
You need to talk more with him about all that......and not us lot..
See what he thinks........
2007-02-05 01:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Franky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋