I dont understand what people are trying to say, when they say, " if you dont love yourself no one will". ???

Question

examples please...so if you are a loving good person, and you love everyone else they wont love u back? why not? as long as you have a good heart and are good to others that is not good enough for anyonew else to love u back? i doint understand why people say that? can u elaborate>

Answer 1

If you are a loving and good person, there is no reason not to love you - it is easy to love yourself and for others to love you. If you are unhappy with yourself, feel yourself unworthy of love, you will not get it.

Often times folks who grow up with low self esteem or other such impediments will find themselves in unfulfilling relationships and will justify it to themselves (even subconsciously) that this is the best they can do - and they are lucky to have even that in their mind, since they don't think highly of themselves.

You must first nourish and love yourself - for then there will be plenty in you to give to others. That is not to say be conceited - it is to say like who you are, keep your promises to yourself, take good care of yourself, present yourself well, and do nice things for yourself. Be kind to yourself when you make mistake - in short, lovingly treat yourself as you lovingly treat others.

Peace!

Answer 2

In the general scheme of life, if you don't love yourself, it will be very difficult for you to love someone else and for them to love you. It is a general truism which has no defense against unrequited love. When people don't love you back it could for a whole host reasons some of which are crazy and make no sense at all. You could have wonderful qualities, but if a woman doesn't feel worthy of what you have to offer, she will turn you down. It's more them than you.

Answer 3

If you don't love yourself, you have no self esteem. If you have no self esteem, you are likely withdrawn, care little about your appearance, have no confidence, and are thereby not a person that other people want to be around.

To love one's self is to want to be a better person. To improve your life, and the lives of those around you. To be outgoing and friendly. because you think that you have something to offer. To value yourself, and thus value others.

I think it's impossible to not have some self-respect if you are going to be a lovable person.

This saying is almost identical to: If you don't believe in yourself, no one will.

Answer 4

you need to understand love....1st , love is felt on a different plain than any other emotion, and it is not open to interpretation or ridicule...although there maybe many around you who wish to offer opinions, it really doesn,t matter what anyone thinks but you , and how you feel for another... but then there is your question......which brings me to # 2....you know your self better than anyone will ever know you , all your secrets, lies, misdemeanors etc...and from this you know right from wrong, good and bad etc... loving your self gives you balance, you sleep every night knowing you are the best you , you can be....you love your self, and the way you are you don,t need to try to remember all you said or did that day because you are not deceptive or mean spirited etc...it is knowing yourself, loving yourself that you learn to love an other, to give to them all you are and and except all they can be for you ...so your answer is if you can not love your self, then you have work to do to improve your life/ character etc.. so that you can be the one person for another , that you want them to be for you .... i hope this helps, and good luck....

Answer 5

What u said is true. By being sincere and genuinely interested in others, others will give it back to you. The verse that u asked is typically for people who are hurt and in turn hurt themselves. Yah, its for people who's abit psycho.
If these people wanna hurt themselves and show the world what victim they are, they will slowly lose their friends. Friends are there when u need them but by victimizing urself and keep asking them for attention is a No no. Your friends may want to help u intitially but after many tries and they realise you do not want to pick urself up, they will slowly go away. So these poor fellas will have to love themselves, pick themselves up b4 their friends will come back to them.

Answer 6

it truly is an rather good question. I see it lots in R&S. yet, frequently the suggestion human beings ask for is the flaws they already understand the respond to. Questions like: what am i able to do to be extra Christlike? ought to get the type of reaction you seek for. Questions like: do not you already know that God isn't authentic? is going to get the type of reaction you're used to seeing. also, the guise of the web and the means to conceal in the back of and avatar ends up in some fairly nasty lashings. Christians who're unwilling to look at themselves first and do what the bible instructions of them, are with assistance from some distance the most hypocritical form ever. No ask your self we (Christians) have a nasty popularity.

Answer 7

this is true, but only in certain cases. if you like yourself [or love], you tend you give off a so much more positive vibe towards yourself and to the ppl around you. people would want to be around you because of the aura you are giving off. if you are negative, whiny, and self-pitying, who would want to love someone so down? true, there are many who would also pity those who dislike themselves, but overall, liking yourself and having confidence in what you do beats everything. people will see that in you and make that out as a positive trait :D

Answer 8

Says that if you don't LOVE your SELF! No one will LOVE your SELF to. Think: You hated your self to the point that you don't care about being you. Does anyone will like that? How can you LOVE others if you can't love yourself? First, you must try to love your self in order to Love them. If you are capable of loving yourself, then others will follow.

Answer 9

well I dont think they mean everyday people. they mean like "love" real love. Its true. If you have self esteem issues the guy/girl will notice it and it just doesnt go too well. ive been there. you have to love urself so the other person can love u just as much as u do or more.

Answer 10

the best answer will come from yourself when you can only judge it while your age grows. but start to love your self rather than missed it out from your own attention. keep it clocked in your head to think of what your self is doing to your own self for next 10, 20, 30 years from now.