My husband and I are very different. I am very outgoing and spontanous and he is the complete opposite. He is an east indian born in Canada and I am a latin girl raised in the US, so you can just imagine with such different backgrounds the house can easily become a battle field. We often fight about money, about priorities and work. His goal in life is to make money money and more money, sure he likes to relax and travel but that doesnt happen very often. On the other hand I dont really care about money because I dont really see it as a priority. We are both young and without children but it seems to me that what he wants is to work and work until we have children so we can keep on working. I am getting tired and I am afraid I might feel to pressured and end our relationship even though I love him so much.
2007-02-04 17:41:59 · 4 answers · asked by Moquinita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems to me that priorities are not in order. Your husband is working to support you and him. But if it is just money that your husband thinks of, then that can be a problem. Because where do you fit in the marriage with him?
I would consider on reading two books called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage" both by Dr. Laura Schlesinger.
That's why you date the person for 1 year or 2 so you can know what the person is like. If you knew he was like this before getting married, you should have not married him. But, you must have chose him for a different reason.
Anyway, don't get discouraged, you two can have a great marriage if you two stop the fighting and start being a wife and a husband to each other. (smile)
2007-02-04 17:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard...
Is there a chance he will ever change ? And you say you love him so much although you are so different ? You say he is the complete opposite so that alone is a problem, i think compromisse is the answer here but in this case i dont think either of you should really make a big effort to change because it could damage the way you feel about yourselves and from that comes ressentment towards the other person. You can try to convince him that live is a one time journey and should be lived to the max because it might end very soon, and when it ends is what youve experienced that counts the most and only your money wont another minute buy...
2007-02-04 17:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by ricardo m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess you rushed into a marriage that is basically incompatible,
The more he sees you not care about money or financial security, the harder he will take over that role. Married women usually want a nest and security as they grow older. If you really can't handle this, take off. He will not change his basic instincts because of you.
2007-02-04 17:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,you love your husband ok.so you should share the activities with him.he wants to save money ok,just save some amount then spend the rest.you're a couple,so everything has to be shared,l guess you're being a bit selfish which is common in your age,but you gotta think better and help him too,so he'll agree with you and who knows ,he can give you all the pleasure that you want so much!!
2007-02-04 17:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋