okay, so i'm completely in love with this guy and we had unprotected sex, i'm pretty sure i'm pregnant, and we've been talking about marriage and stuff but... we haven't talked about kids, and i've tried to hint around to pregnancy symptoms but he hasn't gotten it. i want to find out with him, i want him to go with me to get a blood test, but i have on idea on how to ask him, or to even break it to him that i might be. i really need some help on this. please.
2007-02-04 16:49:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well its tough to get up the courage to tell anyone that. When I got pregnant, I didn't know how to tell my boyfriend because I wanted him to come with me to the clinic for a real test (I did three home ones first which were all positive so do that to be sure) I just sat him down and told him everything really fast so that I couldn't turn back half way through. He was completely freaked out at first but of course came with me to the clinic. If you really love him its really important to both of you that you can talk about things like this, I'm really glad that i told him when I did so that he was supportive and there for me. Though if you are I really hope yours goes better then mine.
Good luck and allt the best to both of you!!!!
2007-02-04 17:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by Inti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honey if you guys both decided to have unprotected sex, he knew the risk of you probably getting pregnant. You shouldn't feel scared or nervous in telling him because you both had intimacy, not just you. I would just sit him down, tell him that you love him very much, let him know how strongly you feel about him and just tell him that you suspect that you might be pregnant. That you would love for him to join you in finding out by either taking a home pregnancy test or going to the doctor. To most individuals the thought of a baby is great but the thought of being a parent might scare them a little. If you get a negative response from him and he walks away don't grieve over that for too long, you will not be the fist or the last single mother. If you don't get any response from him, give him time and reassure him that together everything will be ok, and if he shares your happiness that is great!! But some advise for you, from my personal experience its beautiful to get married to the person that you love, but don't do it because you are pregnant. A piece of paper wont change feelings or responsibilities. if he loves you and you love him you both will work together and make the best of any situation... Good Luck and God Bless!!! :)
2007-02-05 01:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that he will freak out, approach him calmly and make sure you make him understand that it's not a FORSURE thing but there is a great chance. If you think he'll understand, then just straight up tell him. You don't need to talk about the consenquences yet until you know for sure you're pregnant. Make sure he goes with you to get the test. If he breaks up with you or he gets mad at you, then I think you should think twice about how in love he really is with you. Hopefully he's understanding about it.Good Luck Hun.
2007-02-05 01:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry luv but u cannot avoid the confrontation. just tell him your fears, because any partner would rather be trusted with a situation rather than to only find that its gone out of proportion without them knowing.
Keeping a secret from him will also cause a strain between u guys and hey u talking marriage, there should be trust that he can support u. if he doesnt want the child u will reach a solution together.
all the best
2007-02-05 01:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are worried about what he will say then go take the test alone. Then if the results come back positive then take him to the doctor and have the doctor explain things. That is how I broke the news to my boyfriend. I am now currently 37 weeks pregnant with our second child!!
2007-02-05 00:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Krystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay if the unprotected sex sacred you. you both could go to the doc for testing to make sure your safe so that you can keep doing it. this approach does amny many things for you plus you can say something about getting on the pill. he will be up for that. but this is very very deceptive. be upfront and honset and he wont fell like you tricked him into knowing. best would be to straight up say i think im pregnant go get me a test from the store.
2007-02-05 00:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just find a time when he isn't preoccupied with something else and come right out and tell him. Explain that you think you might be pregnant and you would really like for him to go with you so that you can find out together. Tell him that you would really appreciate his support. Motherhood is wonderful so don't stress out. Good luck.
2007-02-05 01:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Billie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty sure? Take a pregnancy test before telling him.
2007-02-05 02:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please be upfront with him. He may or maynot get the hints. The best way to go about it is ---just tell him you think you're preggo. Let it soak in. See how he responds. Ask if him if he wants to go to the doc/w you to take the test and get the results back.
good luck
2007-02-05 01:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by shonnie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to get a blood test. Take a home pregnancy test. If it's positive, wrap it in a box and give it to him on Valentine's Day.
2007-02-05 01:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋