I'm getting more anger?

Question

I'm getting more anger, what can I do?
Eventhough it is correct
My view differs with most of them....I start arguing with them, I thrush them, ....
then I myself compromise with them, what to do.
Because of this, I lose my precious time, relationship, money, health

Answer 1

Tell them whats going to happen in advance,give em a fair warning that you are going to get enraged or that a conversation will lead down the wrong path. I always know when that happens, Iget furious at them, they don't listen. Make them listen and change the conversation's topic or make them let you speak. If they don't let you speak they're lowlives who deserve no respect from the smallest of organisms that there are. They'd be below that. Get your word int, give them a warning when they start making things worse, and if it helps identify the problem. Identifying the problem many times can make you laugh. If it gets real bad, just walk away from them to avoid a horiffic rage. Talk and if they refuse to, leave talk to someone who you can talk to.

Answer 2

You must understand every body gets anger. .Anger is an expression of our displeasure. It should be controlled. It is good you are aware of that at least. Only you are the person who can change yourself. Keep it in mind "in an argument nobody wins". You may win an argument but eventually you may lose a good friend. Always accept there are views different from yours. Never allow a discussion to turn into an argument. Little thinking before entering into an argument will help a lot. Still you feel the views of others are not agreeable, please try to clear out from that place. Be aware you can be a fine person, with a little effort and adjustment.

Answer 3

Anger usually root in lack of love, or feel loved.
Try to appreciate what people have done for you,
think from their point of view, try to accept them,
and allow them to have different thoughts.

I used to be very angry with someone, it took me
very long to forgive him, someday I read a book,
then I realized, to be angry with someone is a punishmet
to yourself also. The book says try to appreciate, people
those you are angry with, must have done something that you
can appreciate. don't blame them too much. just take it easy,
and try to see things in difference way, people are different,
nobody really exactly resemble somebody. That's why life require patiece, forgiveness, love, and appreciation.

If you are in difficult situation, start over everything again, let people feel your sincerely, and show how much you want to fix your problem. Tell yourself everyday, you have emotional problem, and you must be careful dealing with it, and try to conquer it. After a while, you should feel better, it works for me.

Answer 4

How to Control Anger

Steps

1)Breathe. When we become angry, our breathing pattern becomes short and shallow. Focus on taking breaths with a shorter intake (4-5 sec) and a longer outtake (6-7 sec). This increases the oxygen content in the blood by alowing more CO2 to escape, therefore allowing you to think more clearly.

2)Find the "purpose" of why you get angry. Most of the times there is no need to be angry.

3)Look at the situation from other person's perspective. Get their view before you jump to conclusions.

4)Look at the effects of your anger on the other person. It spoils their mood, upsets, frightens, and demotivates the other person.

5)Count reverse from ten to zero till you get back to your senses.

6)Take a short intake long outake breath. Then another.

7)Leave and give yourself a "time out."

8)Identify what you enjoy doing most. It could be painting, reading, exercising, or just shopping. Just involve yourself in it.



Tips
# If you feel anger taking over, remove yourself from the situation before things become too heated.

# Recognize that sometimes anger is justified, and may need to come out. However, realize that there are productive ways to do it instead of lashing out at others.

# Be diplomatic or make a witty comment, instead of just yelling. This way, if the other person overreacts, it makes you look good and them look bad.

# Ask yourself if the future recipient of your furor deserves to be blown up at, or if you are just using them as a punching bag to release steam about another person/issue that bothers you.

# Sometimes, instead of talking to someone directly, it is more appropriate to write a letter.

# Taking yoga can be a long-term solution to anger problems, allowing you to focus on your feelings and release your stress.

# If at all possible, remove yourself from the situation. It's amazing the difference 8-hours of sleep or a 5-minute walk can make. Time gives you distance from the issue, allowing you to put things into prespective.

#Find a creative outlet, such as writing, drawing etc. where you can expend your energy. Hobbies help elevate your mood and allow you to channel energy that you'd usually spent dwelling on issues that you aren't able to resolve. Imagine what you could do with the energy you expend in anger if you channelled it into something else.

# There is a difference between controlling anger and holding it in until later. If you are unable to avoid feelings of anger, try to release your bottled up feelings later in positive forms like art, exercise, or some other hobby.

# Try thinking of stuff that you are thankful for. The more specific, the better. You can't be truly angry and thankful at the same time.

# Meditation is a useful way to release stress and/or anxiety which are often prerequisites to anger. Do not meditate when you are angry, as this could have a negative effect on your anger. Instead, meditate when you hav calmed down and are in complete control of your thoughts and emotions.



Warnings
# If you feel like you lose control when you're angry, seek psychological help.

# Anger is never, ever an excuse to strike out at or abuse (physically or verbally) the people around you.

Answer 5

You need to control your anger. Seems to me you have been judged by your parents to much. your expected to be someone that you cannot be. your taking it out on others. Or your parents have allot of anger ex. fiances fighting allot . change your ways do something nice everyone is not perfect . Time is irrelevant. relationships are complicated you cannot please everyone expect defeat understand your thoughts don't rush to make a point learn defeat. as you get older your health will be effected. learn to relax enjoy life

Answer 6

if u r right just tell once and give the reason .then don't argue .leave people with there thinking because every body is not in the same situation they need time to understand .they will understand later when they put there hand in the mud.

Answer 7

Don t keep getting more stress it s not good you mess up your body that way meaning you might have headache pain and more if you feel angry walk away with any situation and find something you like to do that would prevent you from getting too much stress

Answer 8

What is your age? I found myself doing the same thing at 13-18 I just wanted to force my anger on someone. I wanted the fight. I enjoyed it.

Answer 9

take a vacation, that will distance you from them and you see the things different.
Spend some money only for you. Enjoy the pleasures of life. Ignore quarels and negative emotions.

Answer 10

Start writing personal diary.Jot down all your feelings, the one you have about others ,Follow this for a month you will see your anger subside.