OK long story shorter.. My almost ex husband has been dating my ex best friend. Everyone was telling me but they just said no they were not. Well there are few problems here. #1. in our parent agreement it states that "WHILE WE HAVE OUR DAUGHTER, WE ARE NOT TO HAVE SOMEONE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX, UNLESS RELATED BY BLOOD OR MARRIGE SPEND THE NIGHT. his rule he put in there. BUT he takes my daughter to spend the night at my exbest friends house all the time. Isnt that the same thing? Ive told him and told him but he does not stop. When he has our daughter on the weekend, he is also babysitting her kids cause she has to work. so then my daughter is stuck and bored. That annoys me. but what gets me the worst is that the last few months our daughter has said stuff about them being bf and gf and they told her no they promise they are not, and now they are all of sudden? is that not going to affect her? my daughter is 8. and to top it off. he gave her MY KITCHEN TABLE/
2007-02-04 16:29:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, and a woman is most scorned if her kitchen table is given away to a new woman
stop being so nitpicky about things, just worry about and concentrate on getting the divorce
people are going to date and kids will see that, of course it will affect them, but if they see their parents alone then that is something that will affect them also
2007-02-04 16:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The so called "Morals Clause" is something you agreed to, but is not required. Had you two not come to an agreement, and the judge had the final set up the final decree, this clause would not have been entered into te decree. Judge's will allow them to remain in the agreement, but will likely not enforce it. So, you can spend the money with an attorney to take hime to court on this, but likley a judge will not really do anything about it.
The Moral's Clause used to be a mainstay in divorce decrees. But, that was during the times that living together, spending the night with the significant other, etc, was a lot more taboo. These days, it isn't seen as something that is that big of a deal.
If I were you, I would drop it, and ignore it. As far as the kitchen table, if it was something he got during the divorce, then it is no longer yours, and he can give it to whomever he chooses.
2007-02-05 01:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have the same thing in my divorce papers too. And I used it to get custody of my kids. Now that may sound bad, but it isn't. I was going to share custody with my ex. Then I found out she was putting her new boyfriend before our kids. So I did the right thing and got custody of them. People don't see how their actions affect their children's perception on the world. I could go on about this as I am very passionate about this.
Either way just make sure that you are not doing the same thing. And since your daughter is 8 years old you could have her on the stand and have her admit that it is happening. There is nothing more that pisses off a judge than not following his orders. And note that it does not say at his place or the others it just says overnight guests. So yes it is the same thing.
Now before you do go crazy. Is this really affecting your child or just upsetting you. You need to pay close attention to how your daughter is behaving. Don't just go after custody because you are vengeful. Do it because it is the right thing to do.
2007-02-05 00:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, let it go. There isn't a damn thing you can do about it. And each time he does it and you get your panties in a wad, he smiles inside. As long as your daughter is safe and well cared for, that is all you need to worry about. The time you should be worried about him is peripherally and rarely. You are free of him. Go out and have some fun when he has your daughter. Who cares about the kitchen table? That just gives you the perfect excuse to go and buy a new one to replace the crappy old one she now has.
2007-02-05 00:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is "what goes around, comes around." trust me, it might take 20 years, but it'll all even out in the end. Until then, figure out how to enjoy your free weekends...art shows, dates, festivals, fairs.....there are so many hot men (and ones who actually act like men, and not immature little boys) out there. You have to start opening your eyes to them, not to merry or even date, or sleep with, but conversation would even be nice....Your daughter, at 8, already has a clue. Is she going to be saying one day if some man leaves her, I'm going to be like my mother, a bitter mess, or is she going by the example that dad was a dirt bag and mom was a strong assertive woman who saw this as a new beginning on life and joined a gym, or took a cruise, or started going to hockey games, or art shows, or took karate classes....there is so much.....It all depends on how you look at it, and that 8 year old girl is looking at how your handling it......P.S. sometimes you have to break down....that's O.K. just try to make it on the days she's w/dad. You'll get through this, millions of woman, AND men do, everyday. If you are a spiritual person, church can help. It took me 38 years to find one I actually love to go to. I wish this for you.....
2007-02-05 00:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your lawyer, he is breaking your agreement but it doesn't sound like its court ordered. So I'd see what your lawyer says. And i agree with some of the others he is flaunting it under your face by seeing your ex-friend just to upset you. Try to be the bigger person, and ignore some of the other stuff like his giving away the table. I know easier said then done. And talk to you lawyer about passably going to court and getting an order that works for both of you. Good luck
2007-02-05 01:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by survivedlasvegas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your lawyer and tell HIM/HER whats going on.
You can't get the help you need on Yahoo...this isn't a court or property settlement, child agreement setting..
2007-02-05 00:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by Chrys 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell a lawyer and take him back to court tell what hes doing around your daughter
2007-02-08 20:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes trying ti piss you off and doing a very good job of it...tell your lawyer
2007-02-05 00:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
he just trying to rattle your cage, so just speak to your lawyer
about what going on. and then go from there.
2007-02-05 00:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋