pregnant. he doe not want to be involved. fast forward 7 years. i am now 5 weeks pregnant with a different bf, who i love alot. but he is a heavy drinker. one day he is fine then the next he is drunk. i changed my ph# 4 days ago to try a lame way to get some space. i miss him and want to see him. i dont know what to do. this 2nd child may not have a dad either if i end it.
2007-02-04 16:09:55 · 8 answers · asked by dorothy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Why do you keep getting pregnant by loosers? its inconsiderate for you children.
2007-02-04 16:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that neither one of your children have a good father figure. I myself had to raise my son alone for the first couple of years until his dad, my hubby, got his life straightened out. Drugs/Alchohol. He is all straightened out now, and we have a second one on the way. To this day our first son dislikes his dad. I wish I could change it, but those are the facts. Children can pick up on and are traumatized by things. More so than you think they can and are. I guess my point is...It is better for the child to be raised without a father, than to grow up hating the one they do have. Plus think about the bad habbits the dad will be passing on. Is that something you want your child around, all day every day. May I suggest a good AA or NA group with a friends and family support group. Its very helpful. I go once a week with my hubby. In fact I enjoy going. You can make friends in similiar situations and talk to people who truly understand where you are coming from. I wish you and your kids the best of luck.
2007-02-04 16:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't fair to your child to be in a home with an Alcoholic. There would be a high risk for abuse for yourself and the child. Children don't make these relationships better, they make them worse. The Alcoholic has chosen you because he knows your pinned down with a child, and therefore less likely to leave him. He is counting on your low self-esteem. If you can't cope with a newborn, put it up for adoption. There is no shame in that. Incredible courage, yes! Then raise your 7-year-old the best you can and put off dating til she is grown.
2007-02-04 16:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Campo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go to rehab before he is able to be in the child's life. Having a parent who is an alcoholic will screw him/her up forever and you can't turn back the clock. It is very important he become sober before you involve him w/ your child. My bf quit meth when I got pregnant, if he hadn't I would be a single mom too. Drugs or alcohol and children do not mix.
2007-02-04 16:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By 40 years old you would think you would know not to go for the losers. A drunk is not going to make a good father. I don't care what he promises, having a baby will not change him, and it could possibly make him worse. I would just cut your losses and start fresh and in the future make better decicions about the men you have relationships w/, its not just you your effecting, it is effecting your children worse.
2007-02-04 16:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by medleyc1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That could happen but if the children have a good mother then that is most important. Perhaps sometime when you are harder to please you will find a good man to be their dad. Take good care of yourself and your children.
2007-02-04 16:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go ahead and call him and tell him so if he will be concerened he might be able to help u out with the child,but it will be better if u go and talk and clear things out,as steress can be harmfull in pregnancy,just try ur luck,goodluck
2007-02-04 16:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by monalisa three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your legs closed whore.
2007-02-04 16:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by seminfan 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋