Here's the deal, my friend didn't go to a crew benefit she was going to help out at because of an argument she got into with her dad. Now she's mad because her team mates didn't CALL HER and ask her to come to the benefit or at least inquire as to why she wasn't there. I was the only one who did and at the request of her dad who wanted me to convince her to come. I personally didn't want her there because having her there in a bad mood would've made things stressful. Is she justified to be angry at my team mates? Or is she being self-centered?
2007-02-04 16:02:51 · 11 answers · asked by Maureen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's totally being a brat. She must think she's pretty special if she expects everyone to run around after her constantly begging her to come out to things. Whatever, she needs to get over herself. She sounds like she is pretty tightly wound and gets upset easily. She pulled out bc she was angry over something totally unrelated, you called her and it's still not enough. You're right, when people are in a bad mood like this it just ruins everyone else's night. I wouldn't have wanted her around if she was going to behave like that either.
I guarantee this is the type of person who is forever running late and cancelling bc they want people to miss them and notice that they're not there.
Anyway - isn't the whole point of a benefit to raise money or awareness of an issue? It has nothing to do with her being wrapped in cotton wool.
2007-02-04 16:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as one of you called to check on her and talked to her that should have been enough. Your right in not wanting her to come if she was going to be in a bad mood. And knowing that she is upset with your team mates would have made that situation a tense one for all concerned. Call her tomorrow tell her she was missed and that you hope she's feeling better. Let her rant a bit then say that you understand her distress but, that you had let everyone know that she was having a hard time at home and that was why she wasn't there. You personally can't make the others call her to beg her to come or to find out what her deal is. Don't stress over this to much she is the one that didn't come for whatever reason... and if sounded in your statement about as if her father wanted her to attend.
2007-02-04 16:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by kevinswheat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's being selfish and self-centered. Must have lost that argument with her dad and wanted affirmation of her importance. When no one called, that probably hurt! But since nothing was done wrong (I suspect you all have been on the end of her making things bad by pouting and going on about things like the argument and no one called for the same reason you didn't — no one wanted the thing ruined.), she should have someone who'll tell her this and otherwise help her move on.
But yeah, she's in the wrong, all the way. Sadly, even showing sympathy could just further enable her. You've got a tough one here.
2007-02-04 16:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by roynburton 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why she has hurt feelings, so she can be justified about that, validate her feelings at least, however getting mad over people not bothering to ask sounds a little too self centered.
2007-02-04 16:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's being self centered. Why did you guys need to call her if she had already decided to not go? She craves attention this girl.
2007-02-04 16:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All people will have fleeting feelings of anger. It is very harmful to harbor and nurture them. It is harmful to the person who is holding on to the anger. We don't always get what we want, that's just the way life is.If you are her friend, I would encourage her to get over it and move on.
2007-02-04 16:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Del C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea u r right its not your fault she is in a bad mood i think she is just being Self-centered =)
dont worry about it she will soon get over it =)
2007-02-04 16:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being self-centered. If she can't get up and come on her own time then why is it anyone else's fault?
2007-02-04 16:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self cetnered. you guys are the ones who should be mad. she is the one that didnt fulfill her obligation to the team.
2007-02-04 17:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is mad for a good reason. if they dont want her there, they arent her friends and if they were they would've called her. you are her only friend. good job!
2007-02-04 16:07:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋