Has your wife gained 30 pounds or more since you got married and had kids? How do you feel about it? How do you handle it? Has it affected your sex life or how you feel about her? Answer honestly!
2007-02-04 16:01:27 · 10 answers · asked by missy s 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you women who claim "It takes forevver to lose baby weight after you have kid" Just button your lip right now. I have a 6month old, and I have lost all but 5 pounds. I can not lose those 5 pounds untill I can do a sit up due to a c-section. And I am back into a size 3.
Now, as for the getting fat, women, if you notice you are a little more doughy than normal and your man just isn't as into as he once was, lose the weight. I don't wanna hear "But you shoudl love me for who I am.." Well, he loves your personality, but he doesn't like the way you look. For some women, being "fat" is just not attractive. I was UGLY when I was fat from my pregnany..so my hubby worked with me to lose the weight, and its almost gone..
If my man gained taht much weight, I woudl kick myself in the as* for letting him get that way. Since I cook and control what goes into our bodies, it's about 70% my fault for his weight gain. I also should have told him "hey, baby, you are putting on a little more weight than normal, how would you like to go out an walk a mile everyday with me?" I'll be honest, I don't like fat men. I'm sorry! I don't find it attactive and yes, it would put a damped on my sex life.
So in saying that, I as a stay at home mom and housewife, take his weight and my cooking into consideration. I see he's getting a little bigger, i cook healtheir and vice versa.
But as for all you women who whine and complain "My man is sooooooo insensitive, he doesn't like me because I'm fat! He is such a pig! I hate men" Get over yourself and change your body. Be that babe he fell in love with. And when your man looks at a "skinny, prettier women" Don't get mad at her, she only takes care of her body...learn how she does it and go make yourself look attractive to your man!!Don't keep eating and being a slob.
"Eat less, move more"
Dr. Laura
Simple as that...
On a side note, Ms. piepiepie how many children have YOU had?
Lets break down weight for pregnancy. Since you say "ignorate" women gain more than 10 pounds..
6-10 pounds baby
3 pounds-placenta (well, i guess now we are all ignorate!!)
15 pounds for extra body fat (for breastfeeding and protection of baby)
Well, looks like EVERY women who has EVER had a baby is an ignorate woman!!!
2007-02-04 16:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by Pandora 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
they should love thier wife what's inside his wife not for outside a person can be slim and pretty with a ugly personalty or she can gain weight after she has kids and have a bueatiful personaty and heck a fat person can do sex like a slim person or better
2007-02-08 12:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the skinniest size 0 anorexic woman thinks she is fat. All women think they are fat because they think the reality of the world is those skinny little models that walk with their pouty faces.
Ironically, the men people most find funny and enjoyable to hang with are the beer bellied fat pigs that can eat 400 hot dogs to make people laugh.
I stopped answering the "am I fat" question long ago with my wife.
2007-02-04 16:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
My husband loves me no matter what. I am by no means fat right now though. You should never tell a woman she is fat or getting fat! Men should know better!
2007-02-04 16:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by His Angel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first off you can't ask someone to do something as major as asking a woman to lose thirty pounds with out giving her something in return! After all she did bless you with taking a vow on your wedding day to be committed to you for better or worse? Plus, She did bless you with great children of God? Did she not?That is were you come into play. I would first politely tell her all the things that she is and you are not. Next suggest to her that maybe the two of you could go out for a evening walk every other day to talk about her day. Maybe suggest that the two of you could start a exercise program at a local gym together and tell her how out of shape you feel and hint that you were thinking about joining and you would love for her to join you!? You see if you do this, Number one you keep yourself out of the dog house since she would not feel to good if you said "Boy you sure could shed twenty pounds" because I tell you in her mind she is thinking you said: "Your so fat and ugly I don't know if I can be seen with you". And Second! By doing something for her and admitting even you are not perfect, you are first scoring a lot of Brownie points and two, you are telling her that you love her so much that you rather honor her and go though this with her than for her just to know you think she is fat and all alone in this! If this is more than just thirty pound issue and this is more of a relationship issue for you. I add this based on your added extra info: I will give you a tool to follow for this always Loving, Honoring, Cherishing, Trusting and Communicating with your wife!: By following my 5 biblical principles for finding your soul mate and staying in love with her: Ask yourself:
1. Does she love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does she honor you? Will she do things just to make you happy? Will she try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust her to the fullest? She is your best friend and you are hers? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? She understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find and keep your true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate (my wife)! In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in your relationship with your wife!. God Bless!
2007-02-04 16:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
If this were me my husband would want to be with me and love me for who i was.... He would help me sexercise it off lol and we would work out together and walk it off... we would even try the south beach diet together.. A husband is pretty shallow if he cannot love his wife for who she is inside and not only for what she is on the outside. Great question by the way!
2007-02-04 16:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Aren't u insensitive. after children u need to give a women leeway.but its up to her to get into shape again.
2007-02-04 16:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She already knows without acknowledgement.
2007-02-04 16:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife didn't get fat, she was stupid though, and did stupid thing, i finally told her when we got divorced, i've been waiting years to tell her but just felt that it was mean
2007-02-04 16:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
30 lbs or more?? Jeez, my lover gained 5 lbs and I told him he was getting fat! Hahaha, seriously folks, take care of your relationships. Of course, if you like 'em fat keep it up.
On a side note, having kids is not an excuse to gaining 30 lbs. 5 maybe even 10, but 30??? No. Definitely not. Only ignorant women gain that much fat while pregnant.
2007-02-04 16:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 10⤋