My 18 year old daughter moved out-of-state yesterday and it seems like she will be back soon even though she won't and I have been going through all the stages of grief...
At the moment I have been beating myself up wondering if I did something different or tried harder that she wouldn't have left like she did. :(
2007-02-04 15:49:57 · 6 answers · asked by LS 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
"They" call that Empty Nest Syndrome but I call it pain. It's a shock when the house is suddenly silent and one of your kids is not coming home. Don't dwell on the past like I did! It just prolonged my emptiness. Guilt doesn't mix well with missing a child who leaves. I finally decided that if the problem was an empty "nest" then I would fill it back up. But I didn't want to fill it up with more kids. I love dogs so I have 4 whose ages rotate all the time. (Not a single one of my dog babies ever told me they didn't ask to be born!) You will feel better when you find new interests and accept this stage of life. I don't mean to make it sound easy or fast. It's not. Best of Luck! Seriously. @8-)
2007-02-04 16:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the holy place where the lord is supposed to dwell. For years you put your daughter in that place and now it is time to replace it with the One who should have been there all the time. Do that and start back on the road to realizing that with Him there you will always have good company.
2007-02-05 00:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
life is hard enough, mom. there's too much pain that you have to make the best of every little bit you can. as long as you're heart is ALWAYS...( AND i do mean ALWAYS) keeping love first, it will always work out in the end. maybe not the way you WANT it to, but one day you'll understand. You're gonna get tired and just wanna give up because yo feel like you're never getting anywhere.....but remember....."You can't expect to build a KINGDOM in just a few days".
ps. remember love is caring....and that means always caring about how other s love you as well....so always keep love first, but always be true to yourself.....but YOUR choices will determine you're eternal fate.
The key to happiness is to NOT WANT what you don't NEED.
2007-02-05 00:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by silent 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are going through is understandable|
But kids have to leave the nest|
However difficult that is, we cannot cling to our children|
What you are going through is a difficult separation phase, but it is necessary|
But both you and your daughter will be better off in the long run as you will both have achieved a higher level of maturity|
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2007-02-05 00:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you want to know what cheers you up? i find that chocolate cures alot of things.you could take up a hobby like bowling or golfing sometimes that will help fill the void for the time being.if that doesnt work try rubbing your eye with a pickle.
2007-02-05 00:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's little difference when someone dies, or someone moves away or otherwise leaves.
Because when we cry, we aren't mourning their death, we're mourning the loss of their presence from our lives.
2007-02-04 23:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋