Would you stay?(part 2)?

Question

Part 1
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Part 2

So I've decided to take the job offer.Problem is my husband is insisting he go with me against the doctor's advice and I don't know what to do.How am I supposed to manage a new job and a sick husband?How do I convince him to stay with people who have time to take care of him?

I do love my husband more than anything and he has cancer,he's not dying.

Answer 1

ok, so you don't have the time to take care of your husband

you are choosing a job over him

and in some aspect abandoning him in his time of need

and you can't understand why he is childish?

i seriously doubt you would understand if the roles were reversed

its good for you that you got this new job oportunity that lets you do what you want to do, forget about the little people that are keeping you back, like your husband who needs you now by his side as a wife and partner instead of a weekend visitor, forget him, go do your thing, obviously you care nothing for people and money drives you, so go, fly off to your new and wonderfull life, enjoy it while you can

i'll talk to peter later on tonight, he will mark your name in his book, we wil see you again in a few years, thats when you will have to convince us that you were a good person, you have done a good job convincing me otherwise right now, in a few years you will have more people to convince

oh dear, look at me, rambling to a mortal about good and bad, as if mortals knew anything about it

Answer 2

Why bother to stay with him anymore?

You've asked variations on this same question multiple times looking for an answer to what you already knew you would do: take the job.

Now you're in a quandry because he wants to go with you when you 'leave him' for the career. You're obviously divorcing yourself from the responsiblility that goes along with being married to your ill mate, so why be a coward about it? If a sick mate and your job are too much for you to handle at the same time, then stop tip-toeing around, file for divorce and be done with it already!

He'll be better off without a selfish other half anyway!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

You have to judge how ill he is. getting a 2nd or even a 3rd opinion. Seeing a therapist would hurt either. Personally I think you should take him with you. After all, he is your husband. i am not married but believe marriage is all about togetherness. You can always find someone to care for him in the new city. look into your insurance plan I am sure they have resources to make your husband comfortable. possibly a nurses aid or even a nursing home.

Answer 5

I've never answered here with this type of comment, but here goes:
I think you are selfish and mean. What if you were the one dying? How on earth would you feel if he abandoned you? If it were my husband I would stay and do whatever it took to make his days as happy as possible. If you act like a jerk, you'll feel awful if anything happens to him. And since you are acting like a jerk, I get the sense that you really don't have feelings for him, only for yourself. He's better off without you. But that's just my opinion.

Answer 6

what bewilders me the most if you last paragraph : i do love my husband more than anything and he has cancer,he's not dying.??????????????
gee ? i am so in shock , that i do not know what to answer you .how in the world can you even ask such a question ???????????? WOULD YOU STAY ???
may i ask you if you know what CANCER is ? do you know the suffering people go trough ? and you say :he is not dying ? how do you know ?
do as ever you wish ..........you may have to look at yourself in the mirror some day
for what goes around : comes around ............
i am sort of embarrassed by your question , yet , i will not go on , sorry
i cannot judge you ; someone else will .some day , some where along your road .......
have you NO PITY ? no heart ? no feelings for him :-(

Answer 7

yes, I would stay, and if it's the loss of the job you're worried about why not let him come with you? Do you not understand that he doesn't care that there are people there willing to take care of him that he only cares that you are not. He loves you, and he needs you, emotionally if nothing else. I find myself shocked at what you feel is a dilemma. I mean can you really not see where he is coming from?

If you really believe that you love this man with all your heart then perhaps you need to re-evaluate your perception of love.

Answer 8

All I know is that i could never leave my husband behind you married him for thick and thin if he cant make the move you should stay by him its not his fault you would want him to be around you if he was thinking about a job somewhere else. be there for his healing process no matter how little the cancer.

Answer 9

I feel sorry for you. You obviously do not know what love is and I feel sorry for your husband that he is in love with someone that thinks a job is a better opportunity than staying and supporting someone who is very ill. i hope through this situation in your life that you will learn the true meaning of love and that you will see how selfish you are.

Answer 10

You seem to be just fishing for somebody to say "Take the job, to hell with your sick husband.:Well if you are as selfish a b****as you are purporting yourself to be then you already know what your going to do, so why ask us. My ex had cancer and I wouldn't have left his side for anything in the world.