i fell in love with my freind i told him how i felt an he told me he felt the same about me we dated for couple weeks oh everthing was but then he was sent off to war before he left he told me it was over an told me he had took his ex back i was really hurt . i know i should move on but my heart is screaming at me to hold on that his the one i don't know what to do i still care about him an still have feelings for him an i cant move on i have tried but ever time i talk to a guy or go out on a date i feel bad like im doing something wrong i dont know whats going on with me im so confused should i listen to my heart or ignore my feelings an try to get on with my life
2007-02-04 15:36:04 · 11 answers · asked by sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
move on :(
2007-02-04 15:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you feel sad, rejected, and abandoned. You are hanging on because you think that if only things were different, you wouldn't feel this way.
The good news is you don't have to feel this way, even if things aren't the way you wanted them to be. Finding another guy at this point will not help, as you have discovered. Time to grieve the changing of the relationship and to accept what is rather than how you would like ot to be will help heal yourself.
You can carry a torch and torment yourself with sadness for what is not, or you can accept what is, have gratitude for what was and create a wonderful life for yourself.
Kind regards
2007-02-04 23:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got it bad for this soldier boy haven't you. But that's soldiers for you I'm affraid, love you and leave you after they get what they want from you.
You are going to have to move on, you really are. He's not going to come back for you, so don't wait for him. If he comes home from the war and expects to get back with you, tell him where to go. He only wants whats in your knickers.
Go out there and find someone who really cares about you. Don't feel guilty when you are out on a date, believe me, you will be the last thing on his mind at the moment.
2007-02-05 02:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by The Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
I think you need to look after yourself lots of pampering treats ,spend your time on a hobby you love walk a lot and let your feelings run through you as they will and get on with your life ,then one day you will finsd you are refreshed and ready to start again .Best Wishes
2007-02-05 06:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by pussin boots 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must accept it and move on, he was very honest with you and two weeks is not very long. You must see that he was not for you and file it as one of lifes experiences. I know it hurts but he has not been dishonest with you. Good luck you will meet someone who loves you.
2007-02-05 09:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definatley listen to your heart... if you dont you're just forcing yourself to get on with your life, and thats not healthy. make sure you have a friend there, that can help you get through these difficult times. you should tell someone about these feelings and most of all him... cuz you might not know what he'll say. i bring you all my luck!
2007-02-04 23:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
DAmed if you do and if you dont hit the road to a new way of living a bad foundation is no good.
2007-02-04 23:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he's with his ex do you think you should really butt in? if you were his girl and his ex tried to get him back how would you feel?...I'm not going to say get over him, or forget about him, but while he's with someone I think you should leave him alone.
2007-02-04 23:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a louse. Forget about him and move on.
2007-02-05 04:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant listen to ur heart cause he said to u its over ...so now u have to listen to ur mind and go on with ur life
2007-02-05 02:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know why??????if you accept the situation you can move on......try to do something....go out and hang woth your friends....if that guy realized that he loves you,he will come back to you.....
2007-02-04 23:41:19 · answer #11 · answered by gwyn_41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋