a REALLY big baby about it?...My husband, who is , to me, ther greatest guy on earth, has never really been sick, never been to hopital, now has a bad, I guess pinched nerve, and is really being difficult...I mean REALLy, thing is he has never been even sick....I have had multiple surgeries and problems..What is the deal with this?...how do I help?...thanks...
2007-02-04 15:33:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
great answers girl friends...thanks alot.
2007-02-04 16:31:56 · update #1
I dont have a husband, or a man. but when my dad is sick, he is the biggest baby about. like you should feel soooo bad for him. he acts like he is dying. tell him to suck it up.
2007-02-04 15:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by John Cena ♥'s Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many women agree in casual conversation that their men are big babies when they have a cold, flu, a cut that needs a band-aid, etc. I have learned to switch off the wife role and be mommy, as that is what he seems to fall back into for some reason. Maybe because the rest of the time, he's Mr. Provider-Protector-Fix-It Man and needs to regress now and then. I don't last long at nurturing, I have to admit. We joke that it wears off fast, but I do get him through the worst part, so I guess it's a compromise. I next move into Nurse Ratchet, the stern no-nonsense care-giver, and I suppose he'd rather get better than face me.
Women have more pain tolerance because of being programmed for childbirth. We tough it out. Or, we use Discomfort as the only way to get hubby's attention. Not to say that it isn't real. But it's one thing that makes an impact on his busy mind because he's never sick! I also think it's partly because when big decisions like where to live etc have to be made, you can't do it 50-50 or you'd have a stalemate, so it's got to be 60-40, and guess who usually gets (or is given) the majority vote and is therefore happier with his life, therefore healthier, therefore less empathetic with weaklings? Hubby!
Well, has he been to the doctor about the pinched nerve? No more sympathy until he has been.
2007-02-05 00:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by Casperia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is be supportive. Men aren't built to handle that kind of pain. Give them a 3 inch long 1/2 inch deep gouge loosing lots of blood and they're like "This is so cool" showing everyone. The kind of pain that's hard to explain and not so easy to cure is harder for them to handle. We go through childbirth, mensturation, get dog sick and still take care of our families. We're women, and in this respect we are much tougher than they are, so baby him as if he were a child, cause ya know that is exactly what he wants.
2007-02-04 23:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by tweezer_79 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my ex-husband was the worst baby when he was sick, if it was just a stuffy nose or cold he swore he was dying.. (wish now he would have) anyway... my boyfriend is the opposite. he hates to complain when he's sick or not feeling well at all mostly because he has had and still has alot of medical problems and is just sick of being sick so sees no reason to complain it only makes them worse he says even though i tell him that i'd like to try to take care of him when hes' not feeling well but i can't if he don't tell me he's having a particularly bad day.. :(
2007-02-04 23:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mouseling 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my personal experience I have found that men can be the biggest babies when they are sick or feeling under-the-weather. I think they just really like being babied (sp?). But I think for the initial stages of your hubby being sick you just have to put up with it. Try to cheer him up, or keep him occupied and maybe he will complain a bit less.
Good luck!
2007-02-05 00:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by vivi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The deal is men are bigger babies than actual babies. My husband is the same way or probally worse. and I also am a nurse and over the years i have seen so many men sick or scraped up acting like they are half dead. when the women could be worse off acting like nothing is the matter.My resoning is it would do us no good to act like that because no noe would treat us the way we treat them, when they are sick so my advise to u is to nip it now before it gets worse.
2007-02-04 23:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by DITZ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already said this man is the greatest guy on earth!!! This is huge! Baby him dear baby him! Rub him where he needs to be rubbed!! Remember he has been there for you when you needed him. It's time to show him that when he is at his worst you will still be at your best! And remember great rewards will come to you when your Man feels better!
2007-02-05 00:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by aprildin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, everyone has a pain endurance threshhold---and they are as different as the day is long. He obviously has pain that is causing him immence discomfort, you must be tolerant and try to understand all this. You just don't have to expect him to turn it on and off---treat him as you would want to be treated if you were in intense pain. Good luck with all this---but this does happen and we don't need to complicate it even further. Good luck
2007-02-04 23:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys are like that they are all manly and macho but when they get sick..gah! lol..ok well not all men but some do that it is just how they are..i just the only thing i can say is just to deal with it..try to take care of him in what he needs and show him that you care but don't let him run you into the ground..if you feel like this is happening just tell him that i can't do everything you want me to do. good luck!
2007-02-04 23:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by whatdoesitmatter05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really. He hardly ever misses work even when he is ill. A lot of men are babies about it though. They just don't know what to do to take care of themselves.
2007-02-04 23:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋