who has freinds like this?

Question

I hate the friends you meet and all they do is focus on themselves and they want you to listen to all thier problmes for hours and horus and talk about them, and then when u have real crisis and bring it up, they just ignore it and steer the subject back to themselves. Usualy i listen to their crap but lately i have been havin a rough life and find i need to talk about my problems too and im finding these " so called " Freinds are using me for a free thearpist im very mad that I have spent years listening to thier problems only to find out that this is the case. Would u stop talking to freinds like this? are these really freinds? has this happend to you before?

Answer 1

This person is not a friend. A friend will listen to you and your problems, they may not give you advice but at least they will listen. This person whose focus is on herself or himself probably does not have any real friends. A friend is someone who will stick by you, will cry and laugh with you. Drop this person, he/she is not your friend!

Answer 2

I completely understand you because I've gone through exactly the same thing so many times with different (so called) friends. Fortunately they aren't friends anymore because in reality the way I see it is that they never were. I'm the kind of person thats so patient but once I get tired of been treated unfairly it's like I explode and tell them how I feel well once I start letting my feelings out (boomm) they've all said that I changed i'm a different person etc...and eventually they've stop talking to me just because I tried to resolve the problem, I could tell you these aren't friends because real friends fight and talk about the problem and fix it and keep being friends, and friends listen and are there whenever you need them. I have finally found that friend and found out what a real friend really is after 22 years, (I'm 25 now) and she has always been there for me whether it'd be 4 in the morning (me crying about a problem) she has been there and I can truly say I've been there for her. I never thought I'd find anyone like that and I did and so will you. For the moment if you feel no one listens I feel asking questions here at yahoo answers helps a bit, people are reading your problem, their relating to it (like me) and offer a help of advice. I wish you the best of luck. Anymore questions and just e-mail.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

these people are self absorbed, but if you can take a moment to talk to them just let them know how you are feeling and that you would like to be listened to more because friendship takes two people making it work not just one if they cant do that or start to make a change then it maybe time to make some new friends...

Answer 5

maybe you should try and make them sit down and tell them you have something very important to tell them...and just tell them how youre feeling when u want to tell them something, that they just go to talking about themselves...tell them..it might wake themselves up!!!

Answer 6

thank god my friends are actually friends