mysterious phone call?

Question

Last january 1 night hubby went down to small store phone rang it was a girl she ask if ronny (hubby's name)was home and when i said no who is this she hung up on me immediately.well for months and months i question him about it and he said many times he didnt know anything about it.after 3 or 4 months of being questioned 1 night he said "im all yours u have nothin to worry about"so i said what do u think i would be worried about and he said "i dont know"next day i ask him what he meant and he said "u were worried about the call and i said i didnt know anything about it"my mom said he was just tryin to reassure me.Been happily married to this great guy for 16 yrs and he is a wonderful husband and i know he would never cheat or give another girl his number. I totally believe him but the call is still a mystery and i dont know how any girl would get his number cause i know he wouldnt give it away and My name NOT his is in the phone book..I am just curious as to what other people think

1 time i said to him i was gonna keep bugging him until he told me the truth about the call and he said i would have kept telling u the same thing "i dont know" and another time i told him i was gonna call phone company and find out who she was and he said "i dont give a f**k"..i said these things to him before last summer and a few people have said then it sounds like he has nothing to hide and i agree..I havent questioned him about this call since last BEFORE last summer and i wont again

I know its been a yr and like i said i totally believe hubby cause after 16 yrs i know him well enough to know he wouldnt cheat or give his number to another girl but for some reason i cant get this call off of my mind and i dont know why....and no im NOT in denial or being naive cause i KNOW my husband,,,

Well event if u have read the whole thing then u see i said i HAVENT mentioned this call to him since BEFORE last summer and i WONT mentioned it to him ever again

LOVE I WILL SAY THE SAME THING TO U I HAVENT MENTIONED THIS TO HIM SINCE BEFORE LAST SUMMER AND I WONT EVER MENTIONED THIS TO HIM AGAIN...JEEZ CANT PEOPLE READ LOL

LOVE I WILL SAY THE SAME THING TO U I HAVENT MENTIONED THIS TO HIM SINCE BEFORE LAST SUMMER AND I WONT EVER MENTIONED THIS TO HIM AGAIN...JEEZ CANT PEOPLE READ LOL

lol a relative no i get along good with his family

No justin i havent convinced myself of anything i know he didnt cheat and never would..We have a good marriage and get along great he wouldnt hurt me like that. AFTER 16 yrs i think i know him well enough to say this.

NO we never traced the call,,,Where did u get that idea from..not me thats for sure

Answer 1

You know what the sad part about all this is? You come on here and ask people their opinion on this subject and then you get all defensive about it. If you don't want to hear that your husband is cheating then don't ask. It sounds to me that if some girl is calling your house and you didn't give her the number then who do you think did? She specifically asked for your husband!!! You are in serious denial and your husband knows he is getting away with it big time. Of course your husband is going to lie about it because he wants to have his cake and eat it too. If you JUST KNOW that he would never cheat or lie to you what are you doing on here asking us for our opinions if you are SO secure with your relationship? I think you already know the answers it just hurts to much to accept the truth, HE IS CHEATING.

Answer 2

Sounds to me like the poor guy was being badgered day in and day out by someone so when he says "you have nothing to worry about" and you say "what do u think I would be worried about" Maybe he thought you would be worried about that certain someone that you kept bothering him about day after day after day. 3 or 4 months of being questioned? I'm shocked he's still around! Relationships are built on trust and you constantly bugging him should have sent out a message of "Hey, your a damn liar and I don't believe a single word you say." If that's the case, if I were him, I would have walked away from that marriage immediately. You can't go doing that to people ya know? Just let him be until you actually catch him in the act and then, AND THEN, beat the ever living crap outta the jerk.

Answer 3

my friend sorry to tell you that through you have been in marriage for 16 yrs yet you dont men. For your information never tatally believe on them, they are proffessional cheaters. It seems your hubby has extra-marrital afairs and the lady he is dealing with knows very well that he is married and who is his wife. Thats why he confidently agreed with your idea of tracing the number and calling it cause he knows that even if you will call the number you wont get the clue of what relationship exist between him and the lady. The lady wont tell you the truth. Any way telling you this doesnt mean that you go back to your hubby and start fighting with him, just swallow but keep knowing that men do always cheat to their wifes/girl friends

Answer 4

It seems to me, regardless if your (implied and obvious) suspicions are right or wrong, that you will think one of the following no matter what happens:

1.) You are being cheated on and just haven't proved it yet.
2.) You are being cheated on and are looking to find out if your proof is good enough evidence from an objective viewpoint.

Either way, you've already convinced yourself that your husband is cheating so no matter what happens it will be seen through the lens that supports the conclusion you already made.

Psychologically speaking, this is called 'confirmation bias'. 'Cognitive dissonance" is another relevant phenomenon which is when dispite irrefutable evidence to the contrary of one's beliefs, people will still stick to their beliefs no matter how ridiculous the argument they use to stabilize them may be.

It has nothing to do with whether your conclusions are factually correct or not but has everything to do with understanding that your perspective is never going to actually be able to filter factual truth from assumed truth without acknowledging that confirmation bias is one of the factors contributing to your conclusions.

I have no idea whether you are factually correct or not, but the way to explain your thoughts seems to prevent the possibility of realizing the truth even if you find it.

Answer 5

This is the second time I have seen you post this question. Think back to around that time when that girl called. Was your man acting weird? Was he coming home late, going out more than normal, doing anything indicating he might be cheating? If not, then seriously just drop it. You have made a mountain out of a mole hill. You are stressing both you and him out, are you going to let this one little phone call ruin your marriage? Take control of your emotions, and let this go. Do not bring it up again, unless it happens again.

Answer 6

I know you say you believe him, but I still sense you have a nagging doubt. I call that doubt, "instinct". Trust your instinct. If the matter has not fully settled in your mind, then I think everything is not exactly as he told you. He probably didn't do anything wrong, just avoided telling you the complete truth as he thought you'll then think he did do something wrong.

Answer 7

David is a common name. It could just be a wrong number. Tell her to get caller ID.

Answer 8

Well Columbo, looks like hubby was nailing some other gal. Maybe it's over now.

Answer 9

This sounds more like a prank that one of his relatives probably pulled because they do not like you, and want him to be with someone else.

Answer 10

chill the **** out. one call once isnt ****. it could be an old friend from high school. i can tell you that iff u keep annoying the hell out of him its gunna make him go cheat on you