I feel uncomfortable around homos - but why am I the bad person?

Question

they are the sick, deviant, perverts. and NO I am not a closet gay

Answer 1

Then for god's sake get off this site...we don't want you here either.

Answer 2

Hello there,
I am going to leqave this particular topic for awhile after this answer. No you are not bad, but the way you express yourself is a lack of tact on your behalf, not saying that the answers you receive are superior than you own, you are not wrong or the bad person. It is clear that denial is strongest when mixed with a majority, when you have others who will adamantly back each other, although they NEVER SEEN THE OTHERS FACE. That my friend is a strong loyalty. I seen this Gay guy a few months ago, and I was VERY uncomfortable to be around him, he was tall and talked like a girl. He looked strange and very inhuman. Not judging him, because in my youth I was very much living in a delusional realm. Wanting to be a "pretty boy etc etc. What a joke. The fact is you SHOULD be leery of the company that you keep, and you have every right to distance yourwelf from anything that make you uncomfortable. The bible is the keenst source of information, and it even tells how a man can be cleansed THRU FAITH of the sickness that dwells within his fleshy heart, but who wants to get cleansed, when its so much more fun to be free to live as you choose? I myself, am learning more the value of worship, and how GOD is to be worshipped. I KNOW that the lgbt's are just fighting a battle of temptation, and at this point they are not faring too well. But no my friend, you have ever right to not get close to a man that denouces his sexual nature, to put in place something that deviants from the natural use.

Answer 3

You aren't a bad person, you are merely a bigot that is out of the closet. Many people don't like bigots of any kind. I certainly don't. And I truly have found that people who state their bigotry so vehemently, especially around GLBT issues are usually not closet gays, but repressed gays. That is like Ted Haggard, eventually your gay side will come out, and before you know it you will be living on the down low.

Answer 4

If you're uncomfortable around gays, why on Earth would you come to a site where lots of them are? Why don't you go to the physics section, or the etiquette section, or even the cars and transportation section?

You gotta wonder why a wonderful straight guy like you who says he's uncomfortable around homos would intentionally try to be around them on the internet.

Answer 5

Your discomfort doesn't make you "Bad," but it may make you face problems in the work place and society in general.

When you refer to someone who is gay as "sick," you are stating a diagnosis. Are you trained and qualified to make such a diagnosis? Homosexuality has not been considered a disease since the 1970s, so either you are ill-informed or you are acting from prejudice.

When you refer to someone who is gay as deviant, what norm are you referring to that they deviate from. Sexuality has a really broad expression. There are probably some things that you are attracted to that would fall outside the "norm." For what reason (other than prejudice) would you highlight homosexuality above all other deviations from "missionary position" sexuality?

When you refer to someone who is gay as a pervert, you are once again saying that they have somehow perverted themselves away from their natural tendencies. But for over 100 years (from the days of Sigmund Freud), it has been known that male homosexuality (and perhaps female homosexuality) is either formed in the womb or very early in life. Therefore, for gay people, it is a perversion of THEIR sexuality to try to act as straight.

Again, holding your views does not make you BAD, but it makes you inaccurate, and if you insist on holding onto your discomfort, then you will be the one to face the consequences.

We're here. We're queer.

I respectfully suggest that you get used to it.

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Answer 6

you are the bad person because you are convinced that we are sick deviant perverts. try being a little more openminded and accepting. and F.Y.I., denial is the first sign of a closet gay.

Answer 7

in conclusion, you are indeed a closet gay guy... If you feel uncomfortable like you are stating, why are you here in the first place? And don't come here acting like the victim and be a lil' saint because you are none of the above.

Answer 8

Rather pointless of me to answer, since this will probably be removed. Isn't it INTERESTING that you felt it necessary to "declare" that you aren't a closet gay? VERY interesting. Frankly, I would feel quite uncomfortable around someone like YOU. You are biased, mean-spirited, foul mouthed & truly sick.

Answer 9

Look In Too Your eyes Before, you look into the other eyes of sin. Let God Be The Judge Of That. And Trust me don't get sick over it. Let live. And Live.

Answer 10

Neither you nor the GLBT's are bad. Shame shame on you for generalizing that way. They shouldn't look down on you because you're not comfortable around them, and you shouldn't look down on them because they are different. That's called intolerance and it causes genocides like the Holocaust. Shame on anyone who tells you that you're a bad person, but more shame on you for saying that they are bad. You can't control what other people are or what they do, but you can control how you treat them and what you say about them. You're going to have to work with different people from different countries, lifestyles, backgrounds for the rest of your life. I think that you would do well to accept individuality, not stifle it, not judge it, but gain from it and work with it.

Answer 11

Asserting you aren't something doesn't make you not that thing. I could assert I wasn't English and very few people would question me, but I would still be English.

It may be that you are in fact simply homophobic from training, but studies show about 60% of homophobes have homosexual attractions, which they deny -- but which show up on blind tests very nicely.

So, you have a 40% chance of being correct in your denials.

Reyn
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