well last week i had unprotected sex with sum stupid *** guy cuz i thought he'd stay w/ me and i thought it would me a good idea. but it hurt like hell, it wasant wat i expected, he told every1 at school, he left me and he talks about me like im his pet. so now im left with a bad reputation, abandoned and really really confused and upset and feel dirty and unpure =[ this freakin sucks. does any1 have this same experince? if so what happened afterwords
2007-02-04 15:09:31 · 17 answers · asked by {mish d!tsy [[&]]mi empty head} 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Nope!!! Never that dumb! I saved my self for marriage. The first time I had sex was on my wedding night. I was 28 at that time. Your best bet is to never have sex again until the man you want to marry puts a wedding ring on your finger.
Sex is for married adults only. Not for dumb teens.
Of course he left you!! He got what he wanted and moved on. And you were dumb enough to give it to him.
2007-02-04 15:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 1⤊ 6⤋
I'm proud of you for having the courage to put this on Yahoo Answers so that some other girl might not make your mistake. Your main issue now is if you are pregnant or not and whether you caught a STD or not. You really need to get checked for that because some STDs, like Chlamydia, have no symptoms, and HIV is fatal.
Chlamydia has no symptoms but can be detected with lab tests. It is curable with antibiotics. If you caught it and don't get it treated it can cause scarring of your fallopian tubes so that you may be unable to get pregnant later when you are married and want children.
I'm sorry that this jerk is talking about you but this is often the case with teenage boys (and boys older too). I hope you learned this lesson without getting pregnant or catching anything serious.
2007-02-05 02:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you're 14 the people you may have sex with aren't "guys". They're boys - teenage boys. (And if they aren't "boys" and are older then they're freaks who could get into trouble for having sex with a girl so young and who have something wrong with them for even wanting to be with a girl so much younger.)
What you describe is exactly what adults are trying to prevent when they hope young kids willl wait. Besides the emotional and social factors and the risk of pregnancy, there is also the risk of diseases ranging from herpes on to worse ones. Too many partners and having sex too young also increased the risk of cervical cancer later, and an awful lot of people don't even seem to mention that one.
Just decide you aren't going to have sex until you're at least 18, out of high school, and in a serious relationship with a very conscientious, decent, guy (not a little boy who "thinks he's a big shot" because he's had sex and some of his little-boy friends haven't).
You aren't dirty, but you need to watch out for your emotional and physical wellbeing - so, again, wait until you're older and the people you're dealing with are not little idiots like this kid is.
P.S: It is very admirable of you to post your remarks for other young women to read and maybe be influenced by. You should feel good about that.
2007-02-05 01:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well for fun and payback to the jerky guy wait about a month or so and go tell him you are pregnant with his baby and tell him you and your mom are going to his house to tell his mom. Hopefully you don't really get pregnant, but at least he may feel some grief from his actions too. Don't have sex until......you are at least out of high school. It won't always hurt, but all the stuff you are experiencing plus the fact that you will get pregnant if you repeat what you did again. You are not ready at any level to have sex. It is ok to say no. Guys are going to say whatever they can to get in you including that they love you, but it's crap, they just want to get in you. At any rate, do the best to make this boy sweat things out. Tell him your mom already knows and she is going to make his life very hard. Tell him your mom wants money to take care of the baby and that you are going to go to court to get it. It is all a lie, but he doesn't know that. On the flip side, you need to start blowing people off that are calling you names. They have no proof you had sex so start saying you never had sex with this guy and that he is doing all this stuff to you because you wouldn't have sex with him. The situation sucks, but you are right 14 is too young to have sex.
2007-02-05 04:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had unprotected sex??? And you are worried about school drama?? You should be worried about the baby on the WAY!! Go get a pregnancy test and go to a clinic to check for any STD's. You are worrying about the unimportant right now, worry about the baby that you may be expecting to start showing in a few months and born in an exact 9 months!
2007-02-04 23:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Julio 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
wow. this brings back memories of my first time. i was also 14 and the guy was also a jerk. i want to tell you what i did, so that you won't do it. i also got lonely and felt bad about myself, but it's not your fault that he is a jerk. i continued to think that there was something wrong with me, so i went on a "guy-spree" if you will, and ended up regreting it to this day. be very very careful about the decisions you make about sex while you are young, you may just end up regreting your choices when you are older. don't let the lonliness you are feeling get to your head and cause you to be free with your body. you made a mistake and you know you did but move on with your life now.
2007-02-05 02:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by Miss 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes. It may hurt for a while (physically and emotionally), but things will get better. Now that you've lived and learned you can make better judgements in the future. I wish you the best of luck. The number one thing is stay away from the jerk!!
2007-02-04 23:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by tasha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just b/c you made one mistake doesn't mean you have to keep making it. You can restore your image by not having sex again until your older and ready. As for the guy, what a loser you deserve better. All you have to do is look ahead and put the past behind you.
2007-02-04 23:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by I'm here for now 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I thought I was in love at 14 and had sex (with a condom). He didn't go around telling everyone, but he broke up w/ me and I tried for like a year to get back w/ him, but he would only use me for sex. I'm sorry this happened to you, please be sure to use a condom next time. I had a bad reputation too, but it was b/c of my friend who spread rumors about me. After high school, it doesn't matter anymore, so keep your head up girl!!
2007-02-04 23:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hunny I'm sorry hes a big jerk and he didn't deserve the gift you gave him. Redeem your rep by not having sex again save yourself for a great guy when your a bit older. Your not dumb so dont let anyone say that to you and take it to heart. My first time was horible to I was only 16 and I was date raped on my first date. and everyone at school knew it to. Soon they will all forget and move on to jucier prey its school for ya
2007-02-04 23:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh hunny!!! Hes just a jerk..I was at that stage once and yes it doesnt feel good at all..If you worrie too much about what others thik and say bout you its going to keep on going on..Let them talk it doesnt hurt...As lnog as you no deep down inside what happen and who you are..Keep your head high...
2007-02-04 23:17:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋