Um, I'm a femenine male, very femenine I sometimes won't accept the fact that I'm a boy. Lots of the girls in my class(I live in Beijing, I moved from Cali 3 years ago) sometimes forget that I'm a boy! XD In China, 85% of the people are homophobic, so naturally its hard for me. Sometimes I feel like I ned some one like me, only strong and carring. Its hard, since no one in china actually comes out. Some of the girls in my class know I'm gay. Help??? Oh, my parents don't know this and they are homophobic, but my mom might have guessed I'm gay. I bet she just thinks I'm a girly boy~XD)
2007-02-04 15:08:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
relax & wait...........i had a b/f from 5th grade thru high school
2007-02-04 15:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you, sensitivity to others in that situation is something only time and experience can do. I mean he has been dealing with a huge secret and feels like jumping out at the whole world. You can't expect him to use restraint. I applaud you for your supportiveness you must be a loving family, and I can only guess that your actions around him will hopefully teach him how to treat his siblings with a little more consideration. I wouldn't worry about his siblings, I think it just might be making everyone a little uncomfortable and that is normal and honest, but it certainly won't change him. He is after all just a teenage boy.
2016-05-24 10:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He buddy, I noticed you are still looking for help. I am sorry if you didn't an answer you wanted. but I wouldn't expect a quality answer to come from someone who doesn't know you at all. Anyway, I really want to help you. Now I understand it may seem to you I am just trying to get you to talk to me so that I can take advantage of you or something not good. I encourage you to be careful, but if you could just give me a chance by AIM, myspace, or e-mail,..I would love to help you in the best way that I can. I have most likely shared some of the same feelings you have, and I know that back when I started with those feelings I would have liked somebody to talk to. I understand if you don't talk to me, but just please give me a chance,..and if at any point you ever feel uncomfortable then you stop talking to me ok? Ignore me if I ever ask where you live or for anything that would be something I could use to harm you. I don't wish you any harm. Anyway I hope you get this situation worked out and good luck.
P.S. My e-mail is dscottc1989@yahoo.com,..my aim and myspace are on the other question you asked. Good luck.
2007-02-04 15:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by dscottc1989 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 13 is too young to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. It is great to be gay and very brave of you to be able to admit that but please do not grow up too fast.
You may already know this but since your parents would not be supportive of you being gay I would not tell them. You may need to wait until you move out of the house when you are 18. I do feel for you and the hard time you must be going through regarding your parents.
Also please do not email or contact adults that give out their information. It is inappropriate for them to try and contact you.
I wish you well.
Jason
2007-02-04 15:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell a 13 year old straight person that they are too young for a serious relationship. Take some time to get comfortable with who you are. You'll be glad you did. Good luck to you!
2007-02-04 15:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by robee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to see ifthere is a gay youth club in Beijing where you can meet people. The only wway you can safely meet people.
2007-02-04 16:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Baby! I am so sorry you have to deal with the nonsense. I am going out with a Chinese tranny. I think if you are strong, believe in yourself, you will be OK.
2007-02-04 15:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thirteen is too young to be gay, or straight, or anything else. You are too young to know anything about sex or relationships or love. Wait a few more years to discover exactly what you are.
2007-02-04 15:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about you concentrate on your school work and worry about this in about 4 years.
2007-02-04 15:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PLEASE STOP NOW. It is not good to believe that you are feminine in any way, that is to say that GOD made a mistake, and GOD cannot do such a thing. I HATE to see GROWN PEOPLE telling this child that its okay to be GAY! it is NOT and you need to tell him the truth! Tell him how you are shunned, how you have to hang with other gays, how you have a nightlife, how you must cope with everyday living when you come out the the closet! Its bad because being black and dating a white girl was on the same level! Young man, seek help! you are not GAY you are just young and misguided. Where is your FATHER? Do you believe in GOD? Seek help! STOP TELLING THESE KIDS THAT ITS OKAY TO BE GAY!
No Boyfriend just a counselor or even a pastor, or program to help you.
2007-02-04 15:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by EyeKneadPoints 3 · 1⤊ 7⤋