for wemon only I am devorced going on 6 years now?

Question

I am 41 years old and been devorced going on 6 years now ,and I find my self wondering where I went wrong, I look in the mirror from time to tme and reallly dont see my self as a bad person ,we dated for two years and was married for nine years and had a wonderfull doughter who is going on 13 and try to spend as much time with her as I can .although with her mother and I being devorced we get along great . but I seem to find my self sheltering my self from society and not wanting to be around people a hole lot .I have went out with female friends sense my devorce but yet I seem to keep my morals and standards in place maybe that is why I am in the position I am in .I am meek and mild in my actions and dont drink ,so when I look in the mirror and think back in my life what am I missing,,,

Answer 1

don't listen to the first guy, his spelling and word usage is not that good either

HERE instead of HEAR

Answer 2

You need to quit living the past and move forward,my friend. Look in the mirror and at your future.Your life and happiness or yours and if you don't like what you see,you are the only one that can change that. Here is the plan. What do you want? What do you need to change that? What do you need to do to make this happen. Sitting around by yourself is not good. Find a hobby and look for courses or classes that you can take and meet people with the same interests. Being alone is never good. Get yourself out in the world. Work on being more sociable. Go to the mall and look around and smile at strangers. It won't hurt. Call friends or co workers and meet for dinner or see a movie. The list goes on.You can't sit home and expect your life or happiness to change. Get out of the house!

Answer 3

There Is so much for you out there go back to school get a hobby, but stop delving in the past if you feel that you need improvement then start reading books about it. You are still young, and I am sure there are some women out there that are looking for a man like you. I always give advice when people are looking for love let God be your matchmaker ask and you shall receive. you do need to get out there, and I do not mean night clubs or bars, but different places try some traveling for singles I have been to a few before I got married and I met a lot of good people it was so much fun so get out, have fun with your life that God has given you.

Answer 4

Don't listen to boomboom. S/he used "hear" instead of "here" and "ot" insted of "to". Some people can be so self rightous. Not all of us write or express ourselves perfectly in times of stress or sadness.

Your lack of success in finding a partner has nothing to do with what kind of person you are. Real dogs are able to find someone to spend their time with. It has much more to do with putting yourself in a position to meet someone who will find you to their liking, them to yours. The more people you meet, the more likely you are to meet an appropriate person to keep regular company with.

You might try to expand your life. Do things you would not normally do. Take a class in something different. Dancing, cooking, poetry, writing or even skydiving. You will learn something new and meet new people at the same time.

Try not to think of women as only girlfriends but as friends first. Talk to them, get to know them as human beings, as people. Maybe you are trying to hard, or not hard enough.

It doesn't really matter what you do at this point, just do something else, something different. Shake things up. Go somewhere you haven't been, talk to someone you would never otherwise talk to. You haven't a thing to lose, honey, and everything to gain.

I think you lack a sense of adventure, confidence and fun. Now, get off the computer and call a friend for lunch tomorrow, go shave something, or buy something new for yourself on-line. I mean it, start living.

Answer 5

Keep on being who you are and do not give up on looking... You seem like a great guy and someday you will find a decent girl who will love you for you. Just take your time and date and get to know people and dont rush it. I wish you the best. Do not shelter yourself from society and become secluded and inside yourself. Try to meet new people and make new friends and date when you can and have fun!

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with moral and ethics.... More in society need them and then they wouldn't be so selfish as many are....
If you are feeling embarrassed about being divorced do not be...
Usually two people grow apart in a relationship as they grow older or they become best friends like a sister and brother and the spice disappears and one spouse or the other wants more and finds it else where....
You might be feeling like your missing that someone special to share everything with... A best friend that is also a lover and someone to take care of who takes care of you.....
Many of us single wish for that.....
We are in a society with the highest divorce rates ever... Why - No one wants to be alone?? Crazy huh....
Especially since it is psychologically proven fact that it is a basic human need to be with one person who is a mate.....
Do not give up being who you are for anyone.... it is not worth it....
When all else fails in life we still have to live with our selves and no one else.....Take care and best of luck...

Answer 7

You did nothing wrong, neither did your wife. Sometimes divorce just happens>nobody saw it coming. Divorce is no one persons fault. Its hard, but start your life again, see people (maybe in groups at first), try to enjoy yourself (fake it until you can make it). You'll do fine.

Answer 8

AN EDUCATION? AT 41 YEARS OLD YOUR SPELLING AND GRAMMAR SHOULD BE MUCH BETTER THAN YOU ARE SHOWING US HEAR. IF YOU TALK THE WAY YOU WRITE, THEN NO ONE WOULD WANT OT GO OUT WITH SOMEONE AS ILLITERATE AS YOU.
SORRY TO BE SO COLD, BUT YOU ASKED FOR IT

Answer 9

a spell check!

Answer 10

what is a wemon?