Here is the situation I have 4 children and I have no family...So this concerns more of my husbands family...So I have 4 Children and my in laws dont seem to care for my children the way that they should as grandparents. My husband and I are moving out of the state and we have no family where we are going...So I want to know if it would be rude if I got pregnant when we moved and I never told the family that we were having another baby..I only say this because they show no interest in the ones that we already have..So I want some insight on what others might think about this. Please let me know thank you.
2007-02-04 14:57:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, not sure how to answer, but a few things come to mind. Are you thinking about getting pregnant as a revenge thing? Cause unless you and your hubby are already thinking about having another child, that's a pretty big burden to saddle a child with. But, IF you are already planning to have another baby, I have to say you'd be within your rights to wait til the baby is born to tell them, specially if they make no overtures toward the 4 you already have. Some people just don't seem to be 'wired' to be g'parents. It's a pity, cause they don't realize the joys they are missing out on. I've dealt with g'parent problems myself and I know what you're going thru. Anyway, keep your chin up and remember, what goes around comes around...one day they'll wake up!
2007-02-04 15:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear those things happened until made u and ur husband decided to move out.I will be agreed to go ahead and support u of ur pregnancy not tell them which might be quite rude.It really quite dangerous for u to move out during pregnancy and if those asia chinese peoples are very supersition on it.
2007-02-04 23:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by dearcheah 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being childish. Just let them know you are having a baby and then don't expect them to come and visit. The only reason you would keep that from them is for some sort of revenge. Don't Act like that.
2007-02-04 23:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I Don't think it's rude. You don't talk to them and they show no interest in their grand children. Why should you tell them something that they're not going to care about?
2007-02-04 23:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel like they dont care for the ones you alreadly have yeah rude but they are just as rude not particpating as grandparents so it's up to you.
2007-02-04 23:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by LS 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rude? I think not. Not when they don't seem to care about the grandchildren they already have. I am sorry they are so hearless. Its up to each women who to tell and when. Good luck.
2007-02-04 23:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by angie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is not the right reason to have a baby. They probably won't care anyways if they don't care about your others.
2007-02-04 23:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not be rude. Send them a baby announcment when you have your child. Having a baby is YOUR business, not your in-laws.
2007-02-04 23:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think if they keep some contact with you then yes you shoul tell tehm but otherwise no, its probably not worth it.
good luck :-)
2007-02-04 23:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by butterflygurl085 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't talk to them then don't bother telling them.
If you talk to them, just mention it to let them know.
2007-02-04 23:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋