ok. I've been having an affair for three months now with 39 year old man who's married with children, we both know that we can never be together as a couple, I love him and he loves me back, even though we both know this relationship is going no where we're still together! it's a really weird relationship and it's not just about sex!
Is this right?!!
2007-02-04 14:51:21 · 31 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't help who you fall in love with. You should probably end it before you hurt yourself/
2007-02-04 14:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by XX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You call this a weird relationship. I agree. But I call this an adulterous relationship, a forbidden relationship. a relationship that will destroy your good reputation. You are young and free. But having an affair with an old married man is like gathering a big rock and smashing it right on your head. Take my advice for you own good, leave this man while you still have time. There is no future with this kind of love relationship, it will bring disaster into your life. Guilt, shame and gossip is what you're gonna get. You will hurt your parents feelings because it's gonna bring disgrace to your family and relatives.
Let him go and be with his wife. His children needs him. It is never too late to leave.
You deserve a man who will marry you someday. Don't settle for anything less.. There is still hope for you. Don't put yourself in a situation where you know you will suffer in the end.
RUN RUN RUN AWAY FROM TEMPTATIONS.
YOU CAN DO IT IF YOU TRY.
LET HIM GO
LET GOD GUARD YOUR HEART.
2007-02-04 15:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! It is not right. You're just setting yourself up for alot of heartache. He's got the best of both worlds-sex etc. with a young, attractive girl and a wife to take care of the children. Now, realistically what do you have? A great relationship with a 39 yr old married man. Someday, he will leave you and he'll have a relationship to fall back on, will you? No, your life has been in a holding pattern for this married man and now that he's gone you have nothing and no one in your life. Break it off before you loose too much time. Time for you
2007-02-04 15:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well asking if its right is basing it on others morals. And the way i was raised was not like that. I personally think that is wrong and a way of cradle robbing. He is more than twice your age. I am also 18 and my father is 39. That is uderly and completely disgusting. Love to me to another 39 year old is the love for a father figure. Go to a shrink cuz that is beyond Yahoo!Answers help.
Oh yeah and what about the kids. Were you raised with any self confidence or morals to distinguish right and wrong. Think of this mans children. DONT BE SELFISH!!! Because that is what your doing is being selfish and taking these kids' father and family away. Its not only hard for children to understand daddy ******* a teenager but the humiliation throughout school. Are you willing to cause that pain.
2007-02-04 14:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are way too young and also you should not be having any affair with a married man... You need to tell his wife about you... then you need to dump this guy and move on with your life.... Run dont walk away from him. He is just using you for free booty that is all. He does not love you he is using you and you are letting him.... You both have no idea what love is! This is not right at all and you know it. Do the right thing and break it off with this loser and go on with your life!
2007-02-04 14:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that you already know that this isn't right. Is this the boss you had a crush on from your other question? If so, that adds another layer of sketchiness to the situation. It sounds like he's taking advantage of you. If he really loved you, he would have divorced his wife before you got together. It's more about sex than you realize. Having a barely legal girl is a pretty common fantasy - just search the web. Break things off and if he continues to contact you, tell his wife.
2007-02-04 15:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by tata10-24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really is just about sex for him. he knows that he can keep telling you all the right things and you will keep inviting him over. I know it hurts but what you are doing is wrong. He is using you it has happened numerous times throughout history. if he truely loved you and not his wife he would leave her it would spare her in the long run and you two could be together. but he does not, i know that is not what you want to hear. but it is the truth, what both of you are doing is wrong if he didnt think it was wrong then he would tell his wife. and honestly you should do the same thing. and you should break it off now.
2007-02-04 15:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by big_john_719 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have any more self respect than having an affair with a married man? Judgment aside, leave. Immediately. This relationship is a disaster and the sooner you get out of it the better.
2007-02-04 14:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you've asked ...
Consider the effect it is having on his family, even if they don't know about it ... yet. Consider, also, what it means about --and what it's doing to-- Your life.
How to Find Real Happiness
- Think of Your Spiritual Needs
- Keep Your Life Simple
> Happiness and Self-Worth
- Hope--Vital to Happiness
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When a Mate is Unfaithful :
- Infidelity--Its Tragic Consequences
- The Option of Divorce
- Children Do Not Deserve Divorce
http://watchtower.org/library/g/1999/4/22/article_01.htm
Why View Marriage as Sacred?
> Love and Respect
> Time and Attention
> Avoid a Casual View
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The Problems of Children---The Solution at Last!
- An Ongoing Search for Solutions
- Children Deserve to Be Wanted and Loved
- The Solution at Last!
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- Rights of the Child
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When a person Truly loves another person/s, they go out of their way to make personal sacrifices in that person's truly best interests. There's nothing 'loving' about the relationshipyou describe. Lust is altogether something different. (Seeking the love of a father by a girl who 's grown up fatherless, is dangerous in its own rite.)
What's Wrong With Premarital Sex?
- What Fornication Includes
- Serious Threats
- Learning Self-Control
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/7/22a/article_01.htm
You could both stand to learn something about relationships ...
EMPATHY--Key to Kindness and Compassion
- What IS Empathy
- Scriptural Examples of Empathy
- How to Cultivate Empathy
- Empathy Helps in Christian Activities
- Cultivate Fellow Feeling
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2007-02-04 15:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Only you can answer if it is right or not. I was in a similar situation except I was the older man (34 years older in my case) and I know that for me it was love. My only solution was to follow my heart, divorce and marry the woman I loved. That was two years ago and I have never been happier. How it works from now on only time will tell.
For your relationship to go anywhere depends on him making some hard decisions. If he doesn't want to make those decisions you are probably better finding someone else.
2007-02-04 14:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by John B 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Is about nothing but sex. And HE knows it. You two don't love each other, you lust each other and you make me sick! You're nothing but an easy lay for him and he's a cheating bast*rd! Frankly, you deserve each other. You KNOW it's not right otherwise you wouldn't even be asking this question. Why don't you get your head out of your butt and actually sit down and think about HIS wife and children. Do you have any idea how much pain and misery you're causing this family? I hope she finds out and makes both your lives a living hell because you deserve it!
2007-02-04 17:06:41 · answer #11 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋