Any Advice Appreciated????

Question

I don't know where to post this question, but any advice is appreciated.
my grandfather (moms father) had a heart attack one day ago, it happened in the early morning, my mother first deals with situation on hand and then she reacts, but my mother too had to go the hospital that same day, because she very nearly had a heart attack. ALL THIS IN ONE DAY.
These 2 people are the most important people in my life. I got so scared to lose them both in one day. Both have recovered well, but me i am still in shock, i am in my second year of college, studies don't seem to matter to me anymore. i have reacted to this in a weird way i can;t cry at all, i want too, but i feel i must be strong. i have exams in 2 days, i am not motivated, i just want to be their for my mom.
please give some advice, it would be appreciated

Answer 1

you are in shock..talk to your proffessor re dooing the exam later if possible,you are not reacting in a weird way at all..you could have never predicted this would happen..you say your mom nearly ..had one so that means she didn.t ?you might want to go for some counselling ,but the shock of this is so new right now in time you;ll be in a better space to handle life's tasks..if not .then see a professionall.Your mom is lucky to have you.caring for them so much.write the exam if you can.stay busy and you can still be there for them.you can check on them frequently,you say they have recovered well ,so they should be ok. good luck on those exams...

Answer 2

First of all I'm so sorry to hear this and I'd like to give you a big HUG. Second it's been a terribly big thing to happen in your life and you shouldn't have to deal with this on your own especially when your thinking of school etc. At times like these you need your friends around you so confine to one of them too, it'll be good to get if off your chest and once you have someone you trust, it may help you to have a cry then too, as I think you need to let it out.
Some people might probably say go and do your test and distract yourself that way but I don't think that would work. What I think you have to do is go to the counselor at your college (or someone similar) and explain to them what has happen. They would have to have no feelings what so ever if after explaining your situation they didn't grant you an extension.
Your Mum and your Grandfather are so lucky to have you, and of course after a scare like that you don't want to let them out of your site.

Answer 3

Well, I suggest you ask him for E-Mail, Screennames, Myspace, Facebook, etc. and phone number! That way you can stay in touch with this guy you've had the best times with! You seem like the person who'd have a great chance with this guy! You need to relax, don't bug him, call maybe twice a day, email once a day, IM a little bit. You just need to keep the relationship on a good level, and watch things closely. Meet up, (I know gas is very expensive) Talk Talk Talk! Then when he comes back you may be in for the best surprise! Just don't worry about it, relax, and take my advice ;) Missbunny6211 AKA Brittany

Answer 4

a couple of years ago right before chistmas we had the big ice storm our power went out and I thought I was going to run out of diesel fuel (we need the electric I milk cows). then my dad had a heart attack about a week later. had a few sleepless nights and my first two panic attacks but got thru it because the work had to be done. you spent the money for school so as the guy said before put your nose back to the grindstone maybe take a lite class load next term and rethink thing and find that spark to get you going as you grow older you have to rethink things to get the work done that is at hand and some time find a new reason to do stuff. mite not hurt to talk to a cousler at school you almost lost the two most important people in your life in one day. that will take sometime to get over. just make sure you find time for yourself like I do I get lost in a good book very often and that help relive the stress of the day.

Answer 5

College will always be there. Your Mom may not. College can wait. If trying to go back to college later seems a struggle and frustrating, just think of the regret you'd feel if you put off spending time with your mother and she died.
Oh, and go ahead and cry, good and long. You'll feel a bit of the weight lifted...

Answer 6

Your parents know you love them. They would want you be successful in your studies. Pass the exams, then focus on them since you stated they have recovered well. If you need to talk to someone contact the counselor's office at your college. They can provide several options for you.

Answer 7

Wow, what a horrible thing, I'm so sorry you had to go through that, but my advice to you is to study for your exams. I'm almost positive that is what your mother and grandfather would want, they have lived their lives to support and help you through your life. They want you to be successful, trust me, if you stop now, you'll regret it. I know that is what my grandfather would've wanted if it came to that, he would tell me that he fought in a war to give me peace and that I should take it whole heartily. I hope this helps, good luck!

Answer 8

shock can do that to you some times (eg not crying) but i think you know your role at the moment and that's to help the one in your life that need a little extra right now
if you find some spare time take a bath and let your body relax that should get the tears flowing and get some of that weight of your shoulders
thinking of you right now and good luck

Answer 9

I've been preparing myself for my grandpas death since I was about 7 or 8 (I am now 30) cuz I know he has a heart condition that he was born with. He wasn't supposed to live to be 21 and just turned 84 yesterday!! What I'm trying to tell you is that even though I've been prepared for his death for YEARS I know it's still gonna be hard on me when he dies! Him and my grandmother raised me. But I know that he's taking good care of himself and I go on with my life; checking in on him daily.

Answer 10

The best thing you can do is find somebody you trust that is not invested in the situation to confide in. You have to take care of yourself before you can help anyone else.