My boyfriend is going to study out of the country for a year, and when he comes back he is going to propose and we are probably going to get married in two years from now, even though we don't have any money, house, or a job, lol, I am not having a baby either.
2007-02-04 14:33:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thanks for your answers, they have helped me a lot
2007-02-04 14:53:31 · update #1
Young and dumb
2007-02-04 14:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please wait. Marriage is a very big step for everyone but can be especially complicated when you do not have any money, house or a job. Plus you are 18 and you will change over the next 5+ years. I was in love when I was 18 and could not imagine life without him. I thought we would be together forever, however, thankfully I did not marry him because time changed both of us and he ended up not being the love of my life that I thought he was. You said he is going to study out of the country for a year, well alot can change in a year, so keep in contact and when he does come home before jumping into marriage make sure you both feel the same about each other. Good luck.
2007-02-04 23:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by KristinaMaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you have heard this 1 thousand times but look you have a long life ahead of you and how much of it do you wanna spend it married with children when you and your fiance can just be engaged for at least 4 wonderful years with no children to worry about. Move in with each other at 20 and take it slow to see if it will work. Also you are an adult and as an adult you should just be able to tell your parents what your plans in life are so do what you will just take the time to come out of the fog that love has blinded you with and use a little logic. Step back and realize what you really want to do with your life. Do you want a career, want to go to college? will this hold you back? I hope this helps
2007-02-04 22:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Leslee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 is too young as you don't know what love is....you might think you do....but you don't. Any adult will tell you this. Plus just look at the stats.....over 80% that marry their childhood sweetheart end in divorce.
18 you have yet to begin your life let alone in the next 9 yrs you are gonna change at least 5 times. Change what you like, change what attracts you, etc. Even your friends will change.
Instead of worrying about marriage, the future, etc. Worry about what you can actually deal with today. Schooling, having fun and just being your age.
Don't try to grow up to fast.....cause as an adult, you'll wish you had stayed as a kid a bit longer. Enjoy the time you are in, not worrying about the time to come. Cause no matter how much planning you do....the future never turns out how you want it.
2007-02-04 22:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl what are you in a hurry for? Take your time, it's good you too are at least waiting until he comes back from where ever it is he's going to school. I'm 26 and I've been married twice and divorced twice and I thought I was in love everytime.I also said I wasn't gonna have any babies and now I have 5. Life is complicated enough as it is why rush to make it worse. Take your time at least until one of you has yourself halfway together(job, money ,place to live) and then if you still wanna be married I say go for it.
2007-02-04 22:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by laura s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you truly love him and he truly loves you- you both should have nothing to hide. Just come right out and tell them. You already know how they raised you and you already know what they want from you. So if you decide to go against that for whatever the reason is, be a woman about your and be honest. If you can't be honest or are scared, then you aren't ready. I think both of you should go to school and focus on your careers before taking the leap. Then only reason I say this is because you already said you don't have any money, job, or a house....you may not be pregnant now but you don't want to set yourself up to be a welfare momma. Be ready to provide for each other and any offspring you may be blessed with. Parents only want what is best for you and they just don't want to see you working harder than you already have to. Think about it! And Good Luck
2007-02-04 22:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by aprildin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Even though yes you are 18, and by law you now can begin to make up your own life, but please woman (i say this in the most caring way) i don't mean to preach to you ,yet it would be very wise of you to please wait . If he loves you, he as well would wait for you to graduate from college, have a decent college degree, a favaroble job and begin having a satisfying plan in order to support your marriage with him not only emotionally, but financially too. In simple words, it would be awful (not to sound pessimistic though) marrying him at 18 for example, not having a place,car,money, or basic needs to help both of you stablish your lifes together within the marriage. I may not be answering your specific question of how to express your marriage plans to your parents but things like "how both of you will be able to support each other?" or "will financial stability will get in the way of your relationship?" are things to think about. Sure money may not be all and love will conquer all may be true but sweetie their has to be a fortifying plan to support your own plan you know. For some reason, I'm going strong on this question (your question) i guess its because it seems to be quite a action that your taking to soon (Im not saying your too young to marry,but at least if you know you love him to death ,he as well, make sure to create the efforts to built a strong foundation financially then yall can worry/enjoy building a strong emotional foundation. Take your time. If you decide this (to take your time to then later on marry him) you will see that what im saying/writing right at this moment is true. In the end, no matter what your parents say(sooner or later) your the one who leads your own life simply know what your getting yourself into and if this is what you really i mean really want to get yourself into. May god bless you and your husband (if you get married) always and forever. Love is a wonderful thing isn't it? If you wish to contact me my e-mail address is yanesjazz@yahoo.com . Take care.
2007-02-05 00:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why get stressed and worried about what your parents will say. It is almost 2 years away before the big day. A lot will change in 2 years.
2007-02-04 22:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by umm...I don't know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your decision not theirs although they probably think you getting married is pointless considering none of yous work or have a house together and you will be still living off your parents whats he gonna do buy ya a plastic ring and ask you to marry him HE HAS NO MONEY!!! because he doesnt work. and you cant pay for a wedding with no money! Thats why your parents think your an idiot!
2007-02-04 23:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait you can still be together if your not married. The whole idea of marriage now days is more about the splitting of assets rather than the commitment of love. You can still be in love without being married.
2007-02-04 22:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by badmitton69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about it now? He's going away for a year so why not just wait till he returns and then if it still looks like it will happen then go to your parents...
2007-02-04 22:43:53 · answer #11 · answered by persha69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋