When you're a doormat ... U give and give to people surrounding you and in the end they just hurt you like that. Going home is mentally suffering and even at work ...
Wonder how can a person easily hurt another.
2007-02-04 14:25:42 · 24 answers · asked by Sue3612 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's easy and effortless to walk all over a doormat, you just addressed one of your main problems......now that your aware that you give in to easily allowing people to walk all over you, its time to do something about it. There is not a single person in control of your life except for you....you have the power to change, no one can do that for you. Although it is better to give than to receive if you are always the only one giving and never on the receiving end then it is time to turn the tables and let other people sacrifice for you for you for a change.....remember, you are in control!
2007-02-04 14:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first you need to have respect for yourself and not be a doormat. You need to make sure you are doing what you fel is right in your heart. you always have that little voice inside that is pointing you one way or another. It is up to you to be strong enough to follow that voice.
Second sometimes you knowing lay your self out there to be a doormat, but I have to believe good is calling me to help that person for the time being. So, I will take abuse to help another as long as I feel it is the right thing do be doing.
good luck
2007-02-04 22:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by rblewis7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, Keep yourself very busy doing things you enjoy and being with positive upbeat people. Act as if till it comes along...
If the person is at home and the relationship still exists, well take long baths with candle light and the door locked to the bathroom. It is okay to be assertive, it is also okay to say no I am hurt and you Hurt me. We are all entitled to our feelings and no one can take those away from us. Those that hurt us are very selfish we cannot change any one but ourselves. Stay busy doing things that YOU enjoy.... Smiles and Prayers. Always know someone out there loves you even when your down.....
2007-02-04 22:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are suffering quite a bit from a break up
the best way to get over a guy is find a new one
instead of just sitting at home you should go out to maybe a bar or just somewhere and meet some guys
dont worry.. you WILL meet another man.. a man that will treat you good.. not like all those crappy guys that just love breaking hearts
2007-02-04 22:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by hanalei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true person, a good person should never return hurt/harm. A true person should move forward. Let those that are mentally or physically abusive play the game with someone else. You are wasting your time kiddo. Go find a "giver" not a "taker"....:)>
Good luck kiddo
2007-02-04 22:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The world is harsh and you are learning that the hardway. Sometimes you have to get a backbone and it is empowering. Plus, going out and trying to have fun is the best way to get over someone in my opinion. Just make yourself go out and it will help you forget. But, people in this world are not very nice overall, so you have to get a thicker skin, if not, it will eat you alive.
2007-02-04 22:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by big stan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that for the most part, most people are of good character, but there are still plenty of users around. I had to learn to stop giving so much of myself, especially when it wasn't appreciated. You will have to learn to "toughen up", and not allow yourself to be a doormat. Learn to say no. Where it is possible, get rid of those people in your life who cause problems. Good luck to you.
2007-02-04 22:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by candace b 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know who you feel about being a doormat, I feel that way sometimes. Find something that you enjoy doing to occupy your mind.Sometimes it help to just let it out and cry. It also helps to tell someone how you feel, to say the words out loud. Hope this helps, and take care.
2007-02-04 22:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Holly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just no you aren't the first or last person to have your heart broken...it sucks! I agree with you, people can take advantage of people who are nice to them and is impossible to avoid. Want to heal your broken heart? Stay busy with doing things for yourself...
2007-02-04 22:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl...you sound just like me years ago...i was totally codependant. it made me happy to make other people happy. but sooner or later i was becoming miserable and even resentful towards the people i was trying to please. i was giving beyond my capabilities. i was giving up myself for others (boyfriend, friends, parents, siblings, at work, etc.) i hated myself. then i figured out that it is okay to be selfish sometimes...better than being self-less. i learned to say NO and start taking care of ME. i love to help people but i have to make sure that i am taking care of myself because if i don't, i am useless to other people.
how to heal a broken heart???? ....time.
2007-02-04 22:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by withfaith 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋