I feel that whenver I start to like someone new...i get flashbacks of my past rejections. I start to think that the person won't like me and i will get rejected again. How do i overcome this?
2007-02-04 14:14:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hey, I'm Ruthie too. Nice to meet ya. As to your question, please knock it off! It makes me feel bad to think you are unhappy needlessly. People need friends but they have to start out by being a friend to themselves first.
I think you should start out by making a great long list of everything likable about yourself... Are you funny? Do you try to make people that are feeling bad feel better? Are you loyal? Do you get angry when you see an injustice? Do you have dreams and hopes for the future? Look for the qualities you like in others in yourself.
Then you should assume other people are going to see these qualities in you. That is the beginning. Be a friend to others ...a friend...not a servant or a yesman. Friendships will come but you but start being a friend to yourself.
2007-02-04 14:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by librarylady93562 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody gets rejection in life. It's how we handle it that's what is important. It used to bother me so bad I would cry all the time like I wasn't worthy of that new persons attention. I had to get sort of thick skinned and tell myself over and over again:
I'm a great, smart, happy person. Any one would be lucky to have me as a friend. If this person doesn't want me as a friend, OK, that's his loss."
2007-02-04 22:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sieg Heil,mein Fuhrer!
2007-02-04 22:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by sickmates 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man rejection is a normal feeling for everybody just walk up to that person and tell them you like them and forget about those past rejections because people have diffrent taste this prerson may like you fear is what holds people back dont let it hold you back
2007-02-04 22:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot judge all people the same! If you don't give people a chance, then you will NEVER meet anyone. You need MORE self-esteem! WISHING YOU LOTS OF LUCK!
2007-02-04 22:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by scoodlelou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept yourself... then you wont worry about Rejection.
there are a million people. they cant all like you.
2007-02-04 22:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by Alora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋